The material presented
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to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Please come here often. It helps so much to get the support you need. Please try and attend Al-anon and do FtF meetings. Being in the mist of others that know what your going though will bring you back to thinking and feeling better.
When you decide to let go and let God take care of your husband you will find you have a whole lot of time to start taking care of you and your children. I promise...
Take care my friend..so glad your here :)
-- Edited by Cathyinaz on Sunday 7th of July 2013 06:40:49 PM
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
I went to visit my husband in the mental hospital today. he is on the road to recovery. i just started to talk to u guys who care enough to read my blog. i don't know where to start but from the people i have been reading from going to meetings will be my first priority. i never have time for me but if i don't start making the time then I'm no better then when i started. i have found strength from these blogs. I'm starting to feel things i never have before. its always been lying and hiding. I am a very strong person with a strong personality . i use that to hide how scared and confused i am. I'm like a little girl in a 40yr olds body. i don't even know when its the right time to cry or laugh. i see my 16 year old daughter fight depression. is this due to the problems my husband who is an addict and drunk or is it because i put his needs before hers? i now have time to hear her and try and understand. i am also seeking help for my daughter because i see so much of my husband in her. i have to break this cycle or her life which is just beginning will be so much harder then it has to be. My prayer to God today is to make me strong . heal me so i can help heal my family. listen to my prayers i beg . help me find the time to get the help i need. My son who is 19 acts like nothing is wrong, nothing is different. is this because this is all he knows? so many questions to few answers. thank u again for listening even if i just wrote this for me to read it helps.
My prayer to God today is to make me strong . heal me so i can help heal my family. listen to my prayers i beg . help me find the time to get the help
Dear God. Please hear Tina's heartfelt prayer and grant her the Courage, Serenity and Wisdom to continue to seek recovery.
Tina , the entire family has been affected by this dreadful disease. Denial and pretend, as you know are tools we who live with the disease use to survive and get along.. Alateen meetings are for teens who live with the disease , are free and are held inmost communities. Please check out the meetings in your area as your son and daughter may find support there
Tina , the entire family has been affected by this dreadful disease. Denial and pretend, as you know are tools we who live with the disease use to survive and get along.. Alateen meetings are for teens who live with the disease , are free and are held inmost communities. Please check out the meetings in your area as your son and daughter may find support there
Keep coming back You are on the way.
I sooo agree with this wisdom...........If I can't find a meeting, I am on this board posting, reading, sharing , mostly reading and commenting on others.....and i absorb the love and the wisdom and it levels me out
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Live and let live and do it with peace and goodwill to all!!!!
I am so glad you found us at MIP keep coming back, find a local meeting and read everything al-anon you could get your hands on. The books "Getting Them Sober" by Toby Rice Drews and "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie really helped me dive into my own recovery. I am sending you much love and support on your journey!
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Sending you love and support on your journey always! BreakingFree
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" Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."
"Serenity is when your body and mind are in the same place."
Hi, Tina. What a heartfelt prayer. Welcome to MIP and recovery. Glad you're joining our family on this journey of spiritual recovery. We're not perfect, but we're making progress one day at a time. Many blessings is my prayer for you and your family.
God bless the visit went well. I too am new this this.. Different situation but out emotions are completely the same as how we feel about our A's. mine is my young son who is now in recovery by choice, but it has taken a huge mental and physical toll on me and my whole entire family. We just need to keep coming back and keep saying our serenity. We did not cause it we can't control it and we can not cure it. God bless..
Gaby im glad ur son is doing this by choice. I've been doing this for 19 years. i was a baby when i got married and had children. for him to make that leap he is so brave. as for our families, how do we fix a thousand lies . how do we give back a childhood? how do we forgive ourselves for that. every day for 3 weeks i pray for forgiveness. it is hard to believe that i also created this mess. everyday since my children were born i have told them at least once a day i love them. now i have to show them. hugs and prayers
Tina L.. I as well live with guilt and shame for all my son has done to others.. Every one for the most part have been and are very supportive.. But I am walking around feeling that I have to be the one to explain why he did what he did and with others I don't tell them where he is at, maybe because I hid the disease from some people. I too am looking for answers and quick healing. But we know its just not going to happen over night. I am learning how to work on my recovery and pray that you do the same. You have children and I have a 7 year old daughter we have to do it for our sanity for them. I have so much faith that our God will guide us and he is guiding your husband and my son. We have to have faith and give ourselfs to him. God bless and many prayers to you and your family.
Tina the name of this site is Miracles In Progress and that is a ver appropriate description of what happens with recovery and for me within the recovery program of Al-Anon. When I finally came to understand that it wasn't an overnight process and that I could relax and take it one day at a time...I watched the fellowship mentor that for me and at first it was maddening because I felt I had to do it all and all overnight and then I saw how they were recovering and I wanted that too and so I did it the way they were doing it...one step at a time, one day at a time and sometimes even shorter period of 1...at a time. This is a disease...it isn't a moral issue; and issue of being good or bad. We make mistakes especially when we are suffering from a life threatening disease which is so cunning, powerful and baffling that all we can do at times is react to it in hopes of altering it's course and then only to find out that it has beat us again. Be gentle with yourself...the worse part is over for you...after the surrender the war stops and the quiet can begin. In support...keep coming back because this works when you work it. ((((hugs))))
