The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I heard something at a meeting this week thtat has stuck with me. Feelings are not good or bad, right or wrong. They are just feelings. It is how I choose to react to the feeling that is important. I can still feel sad, angry, frustrated, happy, anxious...whatever. The hard part is choosing how to act on that feeling, that is where I get in trouble. Sounds so simpe, but it is a very good reminder for me. Only recently did I learn I have choices. I can choose so many things about my life, including how to deal with my feelings.
When we can KNOW this, it is freeing....our feelings do not describe who we are at our core..at our core we are radiant and within that radiance, we have feelings. I found when I got this truth, not only was I more accepting my feelings, I was more accepting of the feelings of others. This was a tough one to get....
I love the fact that alanon gave me permission to feel, own my feelings , express them in a healthy fashion and then let them go. What a tremendous gift that has been.
"Feelings are not facts " was a real eye opener for me.
I heard something at a meeting this week thtat has stuck with me. Feelings are not good or bad, right or wrong. They are just feelings. It is how I choose to react to the feeling that is important. I can still feel sad, angry, frustrated, happy, anxious...whatever. The hard part is choosing how to act on that feeling, that is where I get in trouble. Sounds so simpe, but it is a very good reminder for me. Only recently did I learn I have choices. I can choose so many things about my life, including how to deal with my feelings.
Oh yea, i finally learned it is what I do or not do w/the feelings that count.....I can act of them or not...my choice....If I am healthy I don't let my feelings or emotions run me, but I run them
One person told me my emotions are my inner child...and asked me would I let my IC drive us in our car?? I said "of course not" and that stuck w/me....I can feel and validate my feelings, but I am in charge...IF i am working my program...and oh yea, I can relate to "this is where I get in trouble" often I have acted out on my feelings, rather than deal with them and act appropriately...
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Live and let live and do it with peace and goodwill to all!!!!
Yeah Im having problems with this at the moment, I know I shouldnt react the way I am but I just find it hard when my AW drinks in front of me and family with out a care in the world. Thanks for the post it has helped me calm down .
hi i don't know how to real. i have forever been covering up everything that all i want people to see is the "everything is great" person. i will attend the next meeting and hopefully find some insight cuz right now i am in the dark. Thank u everyone for expressing what they feel it helps
