I'm over whelmed . My ah will not stop talking. Boundarys are not working I'm fed up . In drained!! My heart is on overdrive . 8 months sober he his . Again in still on step3 . Please stop tossing extra chores for me to do. He not well still and proved it over and over. Then he wants to start reading about the Boundarys he got from some one in AA . He tells me not to listen to my Alon ppl they just want us to part divorce . He said all his AA ppl are happy married so my ppl are wrong. I have so many books in reading to get me by and now I have him ah try to Coubsler me on my Boundarys I make for him to give me a chance to heel . Tells me this is how the Boundarys are set . The book don't lie!!! Oh my holy moly I'm back in my pity mode he is not making it easy for me to move ahead . Help

Sounds like a bunch of horsecrap to me. Most AA folks I know support Al Anon and are well aware that things aren't rosey on either side of the organizations. He may be sober from alcohol, but it sounds like he has some growing to do still and that's OK. Just keep working on you. You both are on your own path, you are growing in your own ways, and no one said you grow at the same rate and walk happily along on the same path. I'm sorry that things are so frustrating for you, sending you big hugs tonight!

I don't ask about his meetings . I don't get involved because it turns around on me. After going to a meeting last night . I came home to find him here in my house. He reason was to check the mail. I had my hair done yesterday . Cut different added some red highlights for a change of my blond looks . I wish I could add my face to my profile so when u see me and read about this disease that's I here about daily u would remember me . He didn't like my choice of style or color . But made plenty of negative comments to make me feel worthless and ugly , he got his digs in me for 15 min before he left the house tonight. Well you do look like a scrot tonight . Your hairdresser needs to go back to school you really do look like a who... . These words these little visits I get sets me back , makes me wanna give up . I hate having him take my pic to tell me how screwed up I look and brings me in front of the mirror and ask me what I see .. I said a asshole because he was behind me degrading me.. Sorry for the a word.. That's what I saw at the time a man who is getting his last stomp on me last poke of how much he dispises me. Yes I'm crying right now I'm in my pity pile of tears and fears of not getting better, him and his boundary book in hand and starts making ground rules for me . He is sick and twisted and I can't question if he working his steps because I don't no the steps he on . He has a way to make me believe anything he says . I'm just very discourage and hurt by his new behavior and his smirks and the bad stare down of discrase I am . I am grateful today that tonight is over and he out of the house. And I have hope that tomorrow I can chose to be me and only me.