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Just wanted to say thanks for all of your encouragement to go to a meeting. I went last night. It wasn't easy. But I saw my sponsor and she welcomed me with love and compassion. i was able to tell my most recent circumstances of my hubby's relapse after 17 yrs. and they seemed to think I handled it well. That was also thanks t all of you since I had no idea how to react to the relapse that blind sided me. Things have changed so much. The location has changed of the meeting. Now there is online help from all of you. Even a new daily reader is out. But the love and compassion hasn't changed. And I needed that. There now is no longer a Al A Teen available which is sad. They stated that there are so many requirements to be qualified to work with the kids it is hard to find someone willing to do it. So there has been no Al A Teen for 6 yrs. locally. It would be great if there was since I have a 13 yr old still at home. But the group said they were willing to allow any teens to come if necessary.
I did talk more with my hubby about that night of relapse. I told him how it made me feel. I did ask him if he will do it again he said I don't know. He did say neither one brought the pot to the concert. He said it was just passed to them. I said wow how do you know what was in it??? It could have had something else you don't know about. Funny how that would worry me now when I was a teen it was not a thought of that.
My hubby did know I went to the meeting last night. He asked when I got back. Where had I gone. It would have been so easy to not go. I wasn't feeling well and my son wanted the car. I could have said oh well forget it. Seems like there are so many times when something can get in the way and prevent you from going to a meeting. But I said no I AM GOING. Yay!!! I am happy I went. Thanks guys!
WTG nancymom.... taking care of YOU, and your need to get to a meeting, was the exact right thing for you to do.... When we take care of ourselves and our needs (self care, as opposed to selfish), we are on the road to OUR recovery!
Tom
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"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"
"What you think of me is none of my business"
"If you knew the answer to what you are worrying about, would it REALLY change anything?"
Yes...right on Nancymom. You let go and took care of your own life rather than setting it aside for the lives of others and the easy excuse. Since Alateen is a part of the Al-Anon Family Groups I suggest taking him to one of your meetings and letting him listen and learn. Good Job for yourself. ((((hugs))))
I'm happy for you, Nancy. There is no better way to find the solutions necessary to our particular challenges in relationship to this disease and the ways it can turn an ordinary life into a maze of illusions and dead-ends. I'm so glad you have opened yourself to receiving what is our fellowships' birthright to give.
