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Cathyinaz


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I just got a call from my son's landlord.   He called the EMT's because my son was not responsive and he feared for him.   EMT"S took him so I let go and let God handle it from here. 

His landlord will also be evicting him soon so I will pray really hard not to interfere with my son's fate. 

Sad day....... and my son's Birthday

 

 GOD GRANT ME THE SERENITY TO EXCEPT THE THINGS I CAN NOT CHANGE

THE COURAGE TO CHANGE THE THINGS I CAN

AND THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE

 

 



-- Edited by Cathyinaz on Monday 1st of July 2013 11:23:42 AM

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((((Cathy))))

.  I know how painful this type of call can be. Many prayers for you and your son

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-- Edited by hotrod on Monday 1st of July 2013 12:10:00 PM

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OMG....soooo sorry....I have a younger brother who has been in hospital several times due to drugging and drinking....I used to let it blow me away and I would be useless to myself b/c of it....I have REALLY turned him over to his maker of late...He is facing jail for his last drunken escapade and I am refusing to help him mitigate this with the courts...If everyone would just "let it go" and let him learn the hard lessons, MAYBE he would get into recovery

Brother #2 whom I am close to who is older than one described above, is another alkie...No drugs with it but 80 proof vodka is his poison of choice...This past week, he didnt' have his rent, current and back so the landlord of his storage unit where he keeps his tools seized his stuff and said "rent in 3 days or we have a sale of your stuff" I told him I would send him healing energy, but I would not send him any money...I have just enough income to barely get by myself...I have savings, but that is for my home insurance and emergencies...I can't go shelling out $3,000 for a guy who lets this happen over and over....So, I , too, had to let them go...

I sure hope your son is gonna be ok...Sooo sorry to hear your news...One day it will happen to me if they don't stop drinking and using...I'll get a call from someone telling me the same thing...A brother is not a child of mine, no!!! But this kind of news is awful

Sending you comforting hugs............

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(((Cathy))) I'm sorry this is happening. Sending prayers for you and your son. It has taken me a long time and plenty of hindsight to come to believe that my "help or helping" only hurts the other person and myself... simple, but not easy.

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Saying that prayers with (((you))).  I'm standing outside of HP's door and knocking furiously though I'm sure the problem has all of HP's attention.   Just gotta be.   smile



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(((((Cathy))))),

Sending prayers for both of you.

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Cathy, you are in my thoughts and prayers. I know how tough it is to "Let Go and Let God" when this applies to our children. Know that you are giving him the grace to work things out on his own by not doing it for him. When I have gone through similar situations with my AD, I keep an image in my mind of putting my AD in the arms of my HP. This has helped me get through my doubts and fears many times. - G.E.

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Big hugs for you Cathy, please continue to look after yourself.

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My Dear Cathy, Your son has learned something in this last month. One is it is clear to him that he can't do this by himself...another is he felt good when he was sober. I have a feeling that he is going to come out of this even stronger than before. Pray and Pray and Practice and Practice....he will pick himself up and start all over again. Meanwhile you take care of yourself, do all the things you have learned to get u back on track....in support Oldergal



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(((Cathy))))

I am so sorry to hear this news. I have been in this situation with my son and I understand how difficult it is as a mother to feel helpless. You are doing the right thing by letting God take care of him. I pray this is his bottom and he will find recovery.

God Bless.



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Cathy I'm so sorry. Im sending you and him my thoughts and love.x

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Sending prayers up with the others for you, your son and the rest of the family. Keep us close, sister.

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Cathy, I am sorry....prayers for all of you and please keep us posted.



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Cathyinaz


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Thank you all so much for the support. I don't even know where my son is or how he's doing. I don't want to know to be honest. I'm guessing I will get a call from somebody if he's dead.

I love him dearly but I want to stay out of his problems and not even know about them anymore.....sad but true.

Thank you for the prayers .......

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You and your son are in my prayers.  I read in one of my books this morning, "But for the grace of God"  For some of us it means that we might never have reached an emotional, spiritual, or physical bottom and began the upward journey of recovery growth, if not for the grace of God.

You and your son will get through this by the grace and mercy of God.

Gettingitright!!



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I will be praying for you and your son Cathy!

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Cathyinaz wrote:

Thank you all so much for the support. I don't even know where my son is or how he's doing. I don't want to know to be honest. I'm guessing I will get a call from somebody if he's dead.

I love him dearly but I want to stay out of his problems and not even know about them anymore.....sad but true.

Thank you for the prayers .......

 ((((((((((((((((((Cathy))))))))))))))))   I so relate to what U R saying....its sad, but we gotta know and accept when we are powerless...Cry the tears and release it....Sending you LOTS of PEACE energy...



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(((Cathy)))

 

So sorry to hear of this latest development. You and your son are in my prayers.



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Sending hugs to you, Cathy.

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You are being true to yourself and that is very ok. remember I had shared sometimes all I can do is love him.

Some might be mean and rude to you about your decision. Be ready to say whatever you believe to be true.

Honey on the other hand, you may want to find out where he is and at least check on him. The last thing you need are any regrets.When my husband was 27 he was in the accident. I went immediaely. I was very thankful to have that last week with him.

If someone called me and said ex AH was really sick I would go right away. In your case checking on him may help you.

sending you both love, debilyn



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I want to just give you a (((((((((((((((SuperSizeHug))))))))))))))))))))))) in support of your efforts to allow your son to grow up and find his own path. Maybe this will be a wake up call for him. We never know when someone will have that "ha haa" moment.

Be gentle with yourself and do what you feel is best for YOU.

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Sending you soo much love and support right now!!!

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Cathy big hugs, sending lots of love and support. Hugs p

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Thinking of you this morning, Cathy. Sending loads of support and prayers for you, your son and the rest of your family to you to start your day.

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Cathyinaz


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Not to long ago I would have been in a panic and my life would be on it's head. This morning I'm doing quite well and my HP is taking care of me.

I figure if something happened to my son I would get a call because most of the hospitals have my number in case of emergency. My feelings are he was made stable and then transferred to Detox like many times before.

I have to keep in mind what he did was a direct result of me giving him birthday money last week and he choose to drink it away. No more.......I have to detach even more and he will know it. He will not have my ear this time. I will not go down that road anymore.

I will love him, tell him I love him and let go...

Thank you again and I love you all... ((((( hugs ))))




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Love to you, too, Cathy. Thanks for the update and for sharing the peacefulness of your decision with us, too.

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((((hugs Cathy)))) - scary times, to be sure....

Sounds like you are doing a great job of focussing your energy where you can...

Take care

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So sorry about your son! I hope he is doing better!



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Dear dear Cathy...my own mothers heart goes out to you, but you sound like you are doing a good job of holding it together...I am proud of you girl....you have shown amazing growth.....good for you...and my prayers for your dear., lost boy....



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