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This forum is such a great tool in recovery but just lately I have become frustrated reading about the pain of living with alcoholism. It has become a bit much reading the same kind of issues over and over. It never ends.  If I'm honest I think it's more to do with my own issues with my son. I'm not feeling very spiritual and my shortcomings are surfacing. I'm judgemental and impatient and neglecting my program a bit. It's just such a hopeless never ending battle at times and I'm sick of it. I can never really hide this it seeps out of me even when I think I'm covering it up. So I think il hang back here and just watch the masters at work.x



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el-cee,

Some days it is difficult to face the issues of what alcoholism brings into our lives.

We get tired and weary.

Alanon says to , take what you like and leave the rest, but sometimes the things we leave are the things we
need for our life

I think its difficult to be spiritual every second of every day, but we seek progress not perfection.

I read this today and I liked it, thought I would share it.

BE YOURSELF
ACCEPT YOURSELF
FORGIVE YOURSELF
BLESS YOURSELF
TRUST YOURSELF
LOVE YOURSELF
EMPOWER YOURSELF

You are the master of your own life, don't put it in any other person's domain.

Keep coming back, this feeling will pass.
Hugs, Bettina



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http://alanon.activeboard.com/t44007624/balancing-act/ 

 

Yes, I certainly go through those times myself, and I'm reminded that it is all about balance.  I copied an old post of mine, with wise words from my wise old sponsor - that speaks to this....  (could have replied to WorkingThroughIt's recent post as well).  For me, I need to find that "balance" between my recovery, and simply living life....

Tom



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today my counselor called me on my unhappiness...and said...it is my "safety zone." Sometimes the pain and the awfulness is what is familiar and safe for me. It's easier to sit home and complain and be sad about how things are than it is to try new behaviors and risk being out in the world...I have been miserable for so long...sometimes I forget that there is a different way to be....

we decided I needed to try some new social skills that get me out of my safety zone ( of isolation and hopelessness) ....and though i'm not really sure what shape that will take...I know I have to consciously do something less comfortable than what is familiar and what I have lived with for years. My counselor said "the witch is dead" -- meaning my exA is no longer in my daily life...but I have not started behaving differently...

it was a WHOA moment. Still trying to figure out how to start taking a few risks and reaching out in my relationships with people...

in support, 

RP

 



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Hi, el cee.  Based on your post, I decided to write something about my day that isn't about alcoholism.  An old friend of mine, invited me to go for a ride in her fun car that she and her husband purchased as a gift to themselves.  We hopped into a navy blue sportster convertible with little beige bucket seats, drove miles with the wind blowing our hair and talking, talking, talking.  We stopped at a pizza place in a town many miles away from us and enjoyed a calzone and talked, talked, talked.  Then, we hopped back into the convertible, and drove for miles back home with the wind, the bugs, the sunshine, blue skies and clouds, talked, talked, talked and saw a wild turkey on the side of the road, too.

It was heavenly.  It was simple fun.  It was a treat.  And alcoholism - though it entered our conversation - didn't have a chance to damage the day.  Although both of us have aged, wear inserts in our shoes, have stopped wearing as much make up as we once did and know our years are much more limited on earth than they once were - we thoroughly enjoyed each other and the easy, easy time we had together catching up, telling stories, remembering our history together and just liking to be with one another.

Is there a close friend that has known you and loved you a long time you can spend some fun, relaxing time with right now?  I hope so.  They have a way of helping us see ourselves and life a little more joyously - a little more comfortably - a lot more gently.  Much care for you el cee.

I've hit those places, too. 



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