"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"

oldergal · Senior Member

What Are Some Telltale Signs That Your A is Getting Sober?

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

Great question...for me one is that she spoke about a person in her life she called "sponsor" and another was she would say "I'm going to a meeting tonight" rather thann "Can we go dancing"? "Can we go dancing"? mean't "Lets go out drinking and fall all over the place to music". Another is that they get a genuine smile on their face naturally without chemical induction and are able to focus their vision at the same time. No Doctors and Doctors' Bills!!...I could go on and on and I gotta go to work without worrying about an alcoholic....Hey!! there's another one. ((((hugs)))) smile

Bettina · ~*Service Worker*~

Jerry you made me laugh so hard , your mind is so sharp.

When you said" when they get a genuine smile on their face and are able to focus their vision at the same time." that is priceless, funny and sad all at the same time. I conjured it up in my mind and I remember it. As it would always make me crack up.

I know drinking is not a funny matter. But laughter helps.

Hugs,
Bettina

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

sobriety or recovery? recovery is forever. My AH had years of recovery. signs, going to meetings, talking the talk, going to AA get togethers, encouraging me about al anon, the big book in his hands and him reading. when he quit smoking, would not even take a aspirin, ate healthy and gained weight, loved sex, loved intimacy, worked hard, played, would not drink juice, too much like wine.

Lots of them, sleeping well, smelling better as he showered much more.

hugs, think about YOU. love, debilyn

canadianguy · ~*Service Worker*~

Great question - one I don't remember ever seeing on here...

For my ex-AW, it was mostly the eyes

When she was drinking & active - her eyes were devoid of any character or spark whatsoever... they were mere empty shells. When she truly got sober, her eyes returned... she looked at people again, made eye contact (okay, not much with me, but with the kids, lol) - quite an amazing change.

Thanks

Tom

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

My son - when he was active in recovery - was happy that he didn't have to watch over his shoulder to see if somebody was following him. He hummed - always a sign that he was happy. He helped out at home and was proud of his effort. He'd buy food out of the little amount of money he had and share it with the family. He'd get excited about holidays - like he did when he was a kid. He would accept life on life's terms. He'd be content with what was rather than moan about what he didn't have.

Sweet Stanley · ~*Service Worker*~

When that look of anger left his eyes... They were clear and he could see reality up close and personal.

When I saw that his smile was genuine.

Playing with the grand kids, and enjoying it.

Showering and shaving.

Asking me to go with him to church.

Simply putting his arms around me, holding me, and no alcohol odor.

Outbursts of happy laughter......

(I'm smiling now at how my life has changed).... Life is good. Thank you, God.... For all that I have.

KennyFenderjazz · ~*Service Worker*~

When the denial and rationalizations finally stop.

pinkchip · ~*Service Worker*~

For me, my life became all about recovery, meetings, my sponsor, trying to understand the steps, picking up the next sobriety chip. When someone is really getting sober, it's clear that sobriety is a priority and it's not just about being on the wagon. The person is also focusing on their issues and starting to open up about them even though it's scary. There is a measure of responsibility and the blame game is over for the most part.

The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level.

"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"