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I am so very sorry that this disease has reached this unsettling place. I agree with others, please continue to focus on your own recovery . Try to attend a few alanon meetings a week, try to connect with the on line meetings here, get a sponsor and live one day at a time.
You deserve to be happy and safe. Keep on keeping on and I know you will find the answer for your life .
-- Edited by hotrod on Wednesday 26th of June 2013 09:52:38 AM
My husband came home tonight and told me that his mom said it was ok to throw me out of the house. The house we live in is my mother in laws old house that she usually rents out. That it was time for me to leave. That he was giving me the gift of freedom from him. That he loved me but he wasn't in love with me amymore and that I should find my own life. That he cared about me so much that he was going to give me that gift. I just stared at him and said ur crazy. He continued to push all my buttons until I
exploded. We fought for awhile until we were too tired to fight. I think I smelled alcohol on his breath but he wouldnt admit it. Idk what to do tomortow.
Hi, Newgirl: If he had alcohol on his breath, you don't need to know now what to do tomorrow. By tomorrow, he'll probably say something different. It's the disease talking - not your husband. Just because he said his Mom said it was okay to throw you out of the house doesn't mean she said anything of the kind. Meetings will help you become clear on what you need to do to take good care of yourself. You'll learn ways to protect yourself emotionally from this disease. You're going to get through this time in your life but for now, maybe a good night's sleep after turning your self, your husband and your relationship into your HP's hands to make of it what s/he/it will in a concrete form? You are making progress one day at a time. You're not alone. Thank you for trusting us with tonight's experience.
I'm sorry to say but I would leave. You don't deserve this and it sounds like a very damaging situation for you. On a whim he can tell you to go!! How can you feel secure in your marriage and your home when he behaves this way? A better life is waiting that offers respect for you.x
Just like the alcoholic to tell you something outrageous so you wouldnt figure out he had been drinking.
I know this game so well.
I too believe its the alcohol talking and his defenses. Sleep on it and in the morning you will know what to do. I agree with Grateful , turn it all over to your higher power.
Continue to go to your alanon meetings and this would be a great time to get a sponsor to help you thru it.
Alcoholism is cunning and powerful. Relapsed or not his behvior is not reational . It is extremely important for you to continue to take care of yourself. Please continue to focus on your own recovery . Try to attend a few alanon meetings a week, try to connect with the on line meetings here, get a sponsor and live one day at a time.
You deserve to be happy and safe. Keep on keeping on and I know you will find the answer for your life .
-- Edited by hotrod on Wednesday 26th of June 2013 10:14:52 AM
What I try to do is not listen to specific words or content when the exA talks...instead I just pretend it's merely noise...like as significant as a big truck going by...meaningless...
hang in there sistah...you will get to the other side...
I think my husband relapsed. I talked with my mother in law she said he went over for 10 min but that they hadn't talked about anything. This morning he woke up told me he loved me and that his thinking isn't right. He is losing sight with reality. On his FB he has been posting things that really haven't happened. I didn't want to tell him anything cuz i didn't want him to delete me but today i deleted him and put my page as private. I need to protect myself from him. The only thing that makes sense is that he relapsed Im beginning to wonder if anything he has been telling me is true. Could he have a mental illness or is it the disease of alcoholism?
