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There is a lot of not good stuff happening, however there is a LOT of positive things going on as well. I am grateful for this group and sooo many other things that have happened.
Back to working thank goodness .. was starting to get a little worried about some things. I have exactly what I need at the moment although I will be playing catch up for a LONG time to come.
There are some really positive things coming .. just hoping that this is one of those God's will and not mine kind of things.
Maybe come the July 8th I could be divorced, right now .. based upon what has gone down I'm thinking he REALLY wants out which is a good thing for me. His butt is on fire and he literally doesn't know which way to jump. The OP was really the best thing I have done. There are so many things it clarified for me in terms of where he is at sickness wise .. nothing changes .. nothing changes and as I have learned alcoholism is a progressive disease. Still breaks my heart to watch him struggle however .. that being said .. I see now how horribly twisted he is in terms of he has taken another slide down. I do care about him .. the disease I want to beat the crap out of especially when he's in the midst of acting out with it.
I will be very angry if come the 8th he doesn't show up .. as I will have to miss time from work to go and deal with the courts AGAIN. The last time it was very difficult and I was very upset because he didn't show. Honestly I had hoped we would be able to work something out at that point and just get it all done!
Soooo .. here's to being divorced before the end of summer .. good grief I honestly wouldn't know how to act at this point. It's going to be a shock to the system not to have to visit the courts .. although I could probably get a job there .. LOL!
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Sending lots and lots of prayers- there's no shortage! Easier said than done, but try to treat yourself to a boost of serenity if you are able to let go of expectations and outcomes; for example, perhaps, it's possible that the judge may rule whether he shows up or not, etc.
Unfortunately Ms Bud .. it looks like this is just to set a trial date .. hoping it doesn't have to go that far .. however .. if he's really that stupid .. he will let it go that far and then he's really going to be screwed .. he has NO idea how badly he is going to look in front of the judge moving forward.
Other than that all I can do is what I can do at this point ..
THANK YOU my MIP family for the prayers .. I feel soooo much better knowing they are out there. I have such gratitude in my heart, just because I know I am supported and cared for in this group. It reminds me that I am cared for and loved outside a whole other area and that is a neat thing to be reminded of.
Anyway, .. very humbled and know whatever happens it is going to happen for the greatest good of all concerned, I have such a strong feeling that God is moving the kids and I completely out of the way at this point.
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Easier said than done, but try to treat yourself to a boost of serenity if you are able to let go of expectations and outcomes; for example, perhaps, it's possible that the judge may rule whether he shows up or not, etc.