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tiredtonite


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I'm just trying to not give in to disappointment these days but it isn't easy. My workplace is going through a huge overhaul. The mission is getting lost in this transition and only jobs that generate revenue for this non profit are now plentiful. Many of us didn't sign on for this. After losing my mother late last year, this year has been about waving good bye to some of my closest friends in my workplace.  Many of us who are still around have uncertain futures and are trying to get a plan b going. The laughs are fewer and the worry greater. To add insult to injury, we're being asked to understand that this is for the greater good while much of top management continues to take home six figure salaries.  Younger righteously indignant coworkers have left. But those of us who are older and felt the sting of ageism when trying to get hired have adopted a wait and see attitude.   

We go forward with a lot of broken promises by management that has forced us as employees to explain sometimes unexplainable organizational changes to our volunteers, donors, to people we serve.  My honesty with myself and others is being challenged each day.  I've been praying for my higher power's will for me and the power to carry it out.  I worked away from the office today and it was a welcome reprieve.  It can be hard to detach from the insanity at times and do my job.  Some people are jumping up and down trying to get their work noticed, others have just given up.  I try hard to do my job, take breaks, go out for a walk and communicate with my higher power.  Many days I come home stressed and exhausted from the downsizing chatter, fear and negativity in the workplace.  I try to unwind with a nightly walk, my daily readings and a novel or coming here to read.  It's been a lot and the year's only half through lol.  How did one day at a time turn into six months of this. 

Well, if you've been through this and have any experience or insights I'd love to hear from you.  Thanks   TT



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All I know is you are doing the best that you can, that is lots. Look at all the progress you have, and experience. It is scarey yet you are taking it a day at a time.

When I was teaching I felt like a pawn. They would put you where ever they wanted. Many teachers were layed off. Seemed like every year there was some battle. Then a time of figuring out the budget who had seniority. ugh I finally just stopped even giving it any energy. Nothing they said ever happened anyway, so I, like you just did my job and enjoyed the kids!

Yes a plan B is a good thing.

All I know is I have great faith in you, I KNOW you will and are ok. Give it to hp, just do it. take a breath and live. Don't forget to have fun, eat, make love and dance!

Some of the most happiest people on earth, most would think are poor, but honestly they are so rich!

love you sister, debilyn



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Dear TT
 
I am so sorry that this difficult situation is on going in your place of Business. I lived with that uncertainty and confusion for the last 10 years of my working career. My "Not for Profit Company" decided to go"For Profit "and we were off the races. I understand the feelings you describe. I remember deciding I was never going to retain my sanity if I engaged in the daily gossip about the latest rumors or attempted to force solutions. I told my co workers about my decision,to not discuss the rumors and that I had decided to just do my job and if I was laid off I would deal with it. . I knew that the Company had to give me severance pay, etc and I trusted that HP would guide my life and I would be taken care and be OK
 
My co workers honored my request and if not, I walked away if the discussion went to projections. In a short time a sense of serenity entered my dealings in the work place and although I was able to retire in 10 years I did witness many departments and jobs eliminated and many of my co workers discharged-.
 
You are doing just fine Keep staying in the day, pray, and trust HP


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I've been through it and the lies of management several times in my lifetime. Every time the door closed, it was the perfect time for me. I watched people go on break and then be locked out of the building - their purses and belongings brought to them as they waited in shocked surprise. I've been in situations where the raises I was supposed to get didn't come because management changed the quota system the same month reviews were due after 11 months of meeting quota. At other places, I sensed management was corrupt and I quit without a clue where my next job would be and survived it. One thing I learned always helped - telling my HP that as long I was where I was, I'd do my best to do HP's will in the workplace.
That always helped me feel more at peace as management lied, cheated and manipulated. As far as my co-workers, I just tried to encourage them as that is what I sensed was my HP's will then. I learned that doing God's will in the workplace led to more trust for the future and less angst although there were a few times when I had to quit with no clue what the future held. I did know what the present held in those jobs - horrible quality of life for me. I couldn't knowingly accept that. I had to do the next right thing for me - give my two weeks notice. I was never disappointed after giving my notice. I had a job. Didn't need another one until that one was completed. Much encouragement to you as you do the next best thing for you.

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I have experienced a similar situation; security would show up unexpectedly with a pink slip and escort people out. Watching this carry on over months and the company employee pool dwindle is nerve wracking and draining. I showed up every day and did my best to focus on accomplishing the tasks on hand and minimizing exposure to other's gossip or emotional thoughts. During this time, I decided to continue my education, which demanded much of my attention and helped keep me positive. Eventually, I found different work, and watched from a distance over the following few years as the old work place continued a daily disintegration.

Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

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tiredtonite


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It was helpful to hear your experiences with downsizing. I'm sorry you've gone through this kind of situation too. I'm going to continue to take it a day at a time and stay out of the crazy making even if the CEOs are the ones instigating it.  I know I'm not in denial so I can choose to act instead of being acted upon. When my higher powers signals me it's time to make a move I'll do that. Now is a good time to make use of my health insurance and pto for the sake of my wellness and serenity.  I can begin looking at other workplaces to open myself to other possibilities and trust I'll make a good decision after praying about it.Thanks for sharing with me (((everyone)))  TT



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