What are the actual physical affects of having three glasses of wine a night for a 50 year old woman? - Al-Anon Family Group

ToocaringNY · Member

What are the actual physical affects of having three glasses of wine a night for a 50 year old woman?

Mandy123 · ~*Service Worker*~

(((((TooCaring))))))),

So glad you found us.

As a younger than 50 year old nonwine drinker I am unable to answer your question.

Why do you not want to ask her and what are your motives for asking her?

Keep coming back!

Yours in recovery,

Mandy

Cathyinaz · ~*Service Worker*~

I have in the past drank 3 glasses of wine in one evening.....perhaps a bottle long ago ( New Years Party ) but I usually woke up just fine. Wine has a low alcohol % per vol. The most I would get would be a headache sometimes.

Today I don't drink at all.....

ToocaringNY · Member

Hello. The motive is that I am a questioner! I seek answers and would like to know why one would rather not enjoy an iced tea with me and feel great in the morning. Does wine taste that much better? I am currently coming from an angry place regarding heavy drinking. A bad relationship due to drinking. I am working through this and appreciate all I have learned to date. Off to an Al Anon meeting tonight.

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi again

Glad you are heading off to an alanon meeting and do hope you connect and find answers for yourself. Alanon is spiritual recovery program for friends of family of alcoholics.

I must say your asking about how drinking wine may affect someone is a bit confusing Here we do try to keep the focus on ourselves, examine our own motives and grow spiritually. . We can say how having wine feels to us but cannot know what having wine feels to another. The only person who can answer that is the person you are dealing with or maybe someone is AA.

Keep coming back

Mattie · ~*Service Worker*~

It sounds like the answer to your question is "The person is an alcoholic; that's why she'd prefer wine to a glass of tea." To alcoholics, alcohol produces a craving for more alcohol. It doesn't compute to non-alcoholics. But it's there nevertheless.

likemyheart · ~*Service Worker*~

Hello Toocaring, as I understand it, we aren't responsible for determining whether someone has a drinking problem or not, that's in their court. Al-Anon is for those who have a problem with someone else's drinking.

Myself, I don't like iced tea, can't drink caffeinated or sugared sodas, lemonade makes my mouth sore and I get tired of water. Because I sometimes prefer a glass of wine or beer to unwind in the evening to any "soft" drink does not make me an alcoholic.

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi, there is no answer to your question. Everyone is affected in a different way. There are so many variables.

Also I am also too very curious and want to learn the whys and whats. But with an addict my dear friend, give up. This is a very serious disease, there is no way to analyze it at all. They do what they do because they are very sick.

We cannot rationalize insanity. Cannot be done.

I researched addiction, still do. Also am into medicine and anatomy. Our bodies are mostly water, including our brain, when we do not drink water, and do drink copious amounts of alcohol, what do you think that does to our organs?

It also causes damage.

Welcome to MIP. I have been here way over ten years, it becomes home. You will never regret it.

I learned to love my AH as he was, was able to focus away from the using and love the man. Was blessed with a bit more time with him. Sadly he is so brain damaged now I doubt he would recognize me. Over 40 years he was in my life.

In AlAnon I hope you will learn to focus on you, and learn how to be accepting of the truths of the disease. Sadly it almost makes us sicker when someone we love is an A.

Keep coming back! love,debilyn

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