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There was a ''domestic situation'' at daughter's house a couple days ago - new drunken BF went balistic, loaded a shotgun while ranting & raving. Daughter calls me, I tell her to lock herself in bathroom and call 911 -- she's drunk too!! She didn't want to call 911 so I did - was on two phones at once -- 911 operator and daughter...good thing I'm good at multi-tasking. Anyway, daughter manages to grab the shotgun & takes that in the bathroom with her & stays there till officers arrive and take control of the situations. Seven yr old grandson asleep in the other room....the guys is on some sort of TRO at the moment.
Anyway, I get a text from him this morning:
him: could you have T call me
me: NO
him: just want to make arrangements to get my stuff
me: not my problem
him: Ok, thx
Surprised at how quick & easy those four words came to me :-}
-- Edited by Path to Serenity on Wednesday 19th of June 2013 11:04:47 AM
I was raised in that kind of an environment (alcohol & guns) so I know all too well what it's like for the children which makes the need to control even more overwhelming but I'm determined to stay the course - take care of myself & my disabled husband and let God deal with the rest of the world (which is above my paygrade..lol).
-- Edited by Path to Serenity on Wednesday 19th of June 2013 12:33:31 PM
Wow! What an impressive way to mind your own business and let him mind his. I'm going to memorize that phrase to use with real people and with mental problems my committee likes to pose about the past, the future, negative possibilities, and other people. Thanks!!! Lots of support, too.
Daughter moved here from out of state 4 months ago and I'm seeing things that are really disturbing. I don't know if she is an A but she does have a pattern with abusive A BFs - she's had 4 in the past 2 yrs. This is going to be a hard one because of the 3 children that want to live with their fathers rather than her - now I am understanding why!!
...gonna have to construct a virtual fence along my side of the street. Oy vey!!
((((Path))))...Good and sad...Good to know that we learned positive programming and sad that we just had to do it in the first place. Breathe. Glad that turned out right for you and for her and the children and also for him...Drunk with an anger/rage problem...Oh Dear God...Been there and done that myself and it would be okay to put me down should I ever show signs of going back. Have you in my thoughts and prayers and have turn it over to my HP also.
Throughout this ordeal, you've kept your sanity, your sense of humor and trust in the working out of things too wild and crazy for any human to manage on their own.