I've been off the boards for 3 months since we came home from Thailand with my son. He had a 3 week beer binge, in Phuket. No food. He wound up in the ICU He was a mess. I went there and brought him home. We went right to the local ER where they scanned and MRIed his head and found he was ok. He looked and spoke like a stroke victim and it turned out that he was toxic from the huge amount of drugs given to him in Thailand. They admitted him, set up an IV and by the next day he was greatly improved and home the following day. His speech improved quickly as did his trembling, walking and memory. He is still having short term memory problems. 

So we entered what I call the interlude. A 36 year old man lives with us and is in recovery. It feels more like he is 20 than 36. He goes to AA but has not bought into the whole program. He goes to a Buddhist Temple, an addiction counselor, a meds specialist and until recently he was working out a lot. We made an unspoken commitment that he would need a year to straighten out his affairs, get a place and be settled in a job. We are at peace with this and have enjoyed his company. 

He has a part time job in a restaurant and  he is doing 3 hours a day (irregularly) for the co we work for. There is a god chance it will turn into a position. 

Now the down sides. He has separated from his girl friend who is a total lunatic and terrible for him, but he can't let her go completely so there is texting and phoning, no visits. Just tension

His ex wife is back in town and they have resumed. She is a time bomb on over the counter everything. She can be lovely and sweet and fun and then flip. Last night, they fought. She left the house on foot and wandered on country roads until I found her an hour later at 3:00 am.We were all up all night. DH and DS had a plane to catch at 7:00 to do a trade show. It would be nice if DS did well because the company might make a spot for him. Instead, he left after 2 hours of sleep. DH and DS were zombies. Ex wife cried to me that it wasn't her fault and said they drank wine together and he got mean. This is the first time. I spoke to him on the phone. He didn't deny it. I said this wasn't the right time to talk and I would not tell DH since the next 3 days are important for his job. DH reported that DS was too tired to help set up the show and was busy texting his 2 beloveds.  DS made all sorts of excuses about the tension Xwife is under and they want to be together. Happy Days are Here Again! Chaos is back in my house, 

DH just called to report that DS is in minimal speech mode, irritable and just texting these 2 silly women, neither of whom are in any position to deal with his issues. DH is worried that DS will not function at the trade show and DH will be embarrassed in front of his  team and distracted from his work. All this of course has to be dropped on me because I am 1000 miles away. 

When he comes home it will be simple. Will you continue in your recovery as planned or is drinking back in your life? If you think you can drink, then you can't live here.

We have given up our social life, concerts etc because we are reluctant to leave him alone in the house for very long. His mood can change so quickly and over silly stuff. 

I feel so let down. I didn't go to work today. Just ate ice cream and junk. The house is a mess and I am a mess too.