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(((Cathy))) Love your candid, honest share! Your humanity is so apparent and loveable here! Although this issue may not be funny to you, the way you've worded it is. I don't know who this lady is who thinks you are obsessed about your weight in relationship to you, but unless you're helping yourself to food from her plate, I don't think your weight or obsession or lack of obsession about your weight is really her business. Perhaps she is obsessed about her own and has projected it on you? No matter - you are valuable and loveable and needed in this world just the way you are today - no matter how much you weigh or don't weigh.
-- Edited by grateful2be on Monday 10th of June 2013 11:05:54 PM
I was told last week I was obsessing about my weight and dieting and I have to get over it. I didn't think I was but OK. Now I'm upset and obsessing about the person that told me I was obsessing and can't seem to stop. I understood what she said about making a lifestyle change or I will never stabilize my weight but we got into it and now I'm OBSESSING about her and her comments.
I know what I should be doing about it but I haven't done one thing.......just sulked...that's it. I haven't talked to anyone about it either.....just talked to myself.
It's funny how the most stupidest things get to you but this one has got my goat.
Thanks for letting me vent......
Got to let go.....
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
Remember that the alanon tools work in all situations. Us a slogan when you find yourself obsessing. How impoortant is it, Let go and Let God, do a 4th through 9ths step on the weight issue, and the resentlment you are feeling. Share about it, as you just have. Make an asset and gratitude list in which we indicate that you are a beautiful compasionate woman.
Cathy, it is no one elses business what your weight or health condition is. Although if you say it outloud some people think it is there business...so I am not surprised she said something. But its still none of her business, you will get healthy when you are ready to. There are some people who really love you and know that the best thing for you is to be healthy. But the only person who has control over your diet or exercise is Cathy, when she is ready. But funny you should mention this. I have been tested and my cholesterol is too high. So now I am headed for the gym a few days a week. But I had to have a check up before I believed I really needed physical attention. Nevermind what that lady thinks don't obsess about it. Just decide if you want to change your diet you can when you are ready.
In support, Oldergal
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Don't Worry About Growing Old, It Is A Privilege For Some Of Us.....
LOL...attitude of gratitude...now you won't have to feed the goat...she will ((((hugs))))...Dont cha just love how we get them solutions? It's okay to let others input my life...I can take what I like and leave the rest. Find a QTIP and give yourself a (((((hug)))) In support
tehe love the simple awareness of self .. they are the light moments I truly love. true that anything I do in alanon is to work on me .. It's hard when someone shows me something I need to look at in me; it's like a forced 4th step. the step was hard enough when I was willing and ready but the growth that comes when I accept the insight is what allows me to move forward in my thinking. I was reminded that when I get stuck in ego (if, that is, something is true and I don't look at it or admit it) I'm heading for trouble; beginning to be grateful I have an hp who cares enough to not let me get 'lost in it.
I love the honesty too; it's how we work together. =)
