Feeling down - Al-Anon Family Group

Laura Baker · Member

Feeling down

Green Eyes · ~*Service Worker*~

When I've been in a similar state of mind, I say the Serenity Prayer over and over again, and/or read either my ODAT or Courage to Change after looking up keywords like, "loneliness" or "sadness." Sending you lots of ESH right now. It WILL get better if you use your Al-Anon tools.

yanksfan51 · ~*Service Worker*~

LB:

I have been where you are very recently (filed papers about two weeks ago). I agree that reading the literature, going to meetings, talking to sponsor...all help tremendously. The day I went to see the lawyer I literally went through the contacts in my phone and asked for support from about 25 people! Getting those supportive texts and phone calls, people checking in helped me a lot.

I have been coming to these boards for over a year now and have felt like the people here have held my hand through every step of the process; not advice, just support and experience shared which is so so helpful.

Wishing you strength--keep coming back

Yanksfan

PS I agree...the Serenity Prayer has helped me through many many difficult moments

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

(Laura)))

I am holding you in my thoughts and prayers tonight.

Please know that HP is with you and you are never alone

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

Loneliness can be an invitation to learn something about the deepest part of ourselves. If you like to journal or write, you could write a letter to the loneliness within you and invite it to tell you the next steps to take that are right for you. Difficult decision you've made. Waiting for the outcome of it can be scary. Praying for peace and awareness of your HP's Presence can relieve you of future fears and past regrets. I've been there, too. Lots of support coming your way.

PP · ~*Service Worker*~

The phone used to seem so heavy when I needed to call my sponsor. I was always glad/relieved when I finally made the call...a few minutes of support helped me to feel uplifted. We are with you in support.

Mattie · ~*Service Worker*~

I'm glad you have found us. I just want to warn you in case the name you list is your real name, that it will be findable in an online search. So you might want to change it to a pseudonym or just your first name. Someone here will know how to do that, though I don't.

Despite this little glitch I hope you will keep coming back. There is a lot of wisdom and support here. Take good care of yourself.

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

It is a time for confusion and wild emotions and I don't have fun remembering when I went thru the situation. The tools mentioned of meetings, sponsors, walking the program, trusting God and helping others kept me on the right track and got me thru while nothing else would. I'll lend you some slogans my sponsors worked with me during the time of confusion..."When in doubt....don't" (make any major decisions) "Don't React" (practice patience...apply 3-5 seconds inbetween what triggers you and how you respond)...another member in recovery said a very wise thing about that period of time...he said that "It is in those 3 to 5 seconds of time that I find God" Meditate at all times 24/7 and it can be done if the spiritual truth you meditate on is simple...mine is "God is" ...I am doing it now. Remember that anytime your confusion results in you thinking you've made or are making a mistake...stop...making the mistake...when in doubt...don't. I grew alot during the 3 years I purposefully made the program more important that my divorce and when it happened she went and got clean and sober and HP made her my metaphor for humility. Go figure...the disease maybe cunning powerful and baffling and my HP can make it look like a rain wet kitten. In support and service. ((((hugs)))) smile

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

Sweet one I just went thru a very scary experience where I thought my relationship was over. I sure know how awful it feels.

I came here and received so much love and support thru it. I took naps, ate right, as someone reminded me too, to go with it, accept the fear,depression, disappointment.

It is a hard time. But if we face it, work on ourselves, we heal much quicker and better. I journaled a lot! That was amazingly helpful.I learned lots of the feelings I let out, were not really how i felt. A lot was fear of being so wrong about someone.

It will get better, nothing stays the same. I rememeber someone telling me that too.

I don't know the situation but if you are in fear of retaliation or abuse, please make a plan to get away, then have a place to go.

Leave a bag somewhere safe with some cash, extra car keys, cloths, meds. if you have pets, emergency things for them too. A plan to get them out too. I have shared this many times and sadly but gladly know of instances where it was was very handy for people.

We can make ourselves be ok. Treat our self as we are, broken! Broken hearts hurt, we must take care of ourselves.

Keep coming and talking to us. It helped me so very much. love,debilyn

Laura Baker · Member

I love you all thank you and i will pray meditate journal and share, just like you all are trying to teach me

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