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tortuga


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.... and by the way, I am coming here regularly to hide from the roaming of this disease. exABF is back to drinking, and so I'm back as a projection surface for him and all his wrongs in life. This would have destroyed me 1 year ago, with all the attacks, and 'you are too good for me', arrogant attitude, 'my friends love me more', 'they know how to support me, you don't' bla bla bla......he's back in emotional roller coaster, blame, self-pity, arrogance, putting me down, jealousy, distorting reality,leaving me bleeding and kicking me when I'm already having hard times missing him,..... and so i abandoned the wagon.

Am bored of that game, I know that I can win this game, so why play at all....i stopped arguments, defense, replies, i stopped becoming angry....detachment works for me, today is a nice day for swimming...lets talk about something else! I almost manage not becoming sad (of course I miss him), I know I will be fine...and feel sorry to see the wonderful person he can be, drifts off with the liquid again.

yes, staying away and coming back here is the best i can do, for me AND for him.

recovery in progress



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Debilyn


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Good for you!! It's great to see your progress. It is hard when we know how neat they are sober. Trouble is, then never think they are, and it is up to them to work on that!

 

hugz! debilyn



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Tracy


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Hi,

glad you are doing what is right for you.

My partner has been in AA four years slipping and sliding he is nearly a year sober this time, I know how it hurts when they go back out there.  I can only share my ESH what I do when this happens.

I remove myself, go to extra meetings , come on here when ever I can, ring sponsor if I have one, give myself a little extra tlc like I would to a friend, read read read.  Try to get as much al anon as I can while the disease is on the attck.  When my partner slipped last time the disease never got much of a chance to get me my al anon shield fought it off.

keep coming back, it works if you work it.

 

hugs tracy xxx



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