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Tonight I surprised myself my A boyfriend who for the past 3 years has only been drunk 2 times until tonight called me from our shed where he has been all day to tell me he had been drinking and all I said at first was why (not that it matters) he said he didn't know but he had been thinking about it for a long time I said well don't you think that is a problem and he said yes. 3 years ago I told him I was all done with the drinking and that we couldn't be together if it was going to be a problem again (he had already stopped but hadn't told me yet although I knew) he said he understood and didn't want to be that man anymore he loved me and the kids too much. So tonight as he tried to talk to me about it (very calm he was) I simply told him I wasn't going to discuss this with him until he was sober and he was OK with that so we decided he would go stay with his dad at his other house for tonight he tried to tell me he was fine driving.....then I let him know he was not leaving this yard with a vehicle so he said OK and called himself a ride. He said he was sorry and I said I know you are but sorry doesn't fix the problem and he agreed. He left peacefully. The part that surprised me is how I stayed calm kept it simple didn't engage and I feel good about how I handled it. I've come a long way from the crying and yelling I used to do I am in a good place with myself and I want to stay there
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You never know how strong you are until being strong is your only choice.
Aloha Holly...Good program work...now Put your right hand over your left shoulder and your left hand over your right shoulder and pat your self on the back...If I was there I'd do it for you but the best I can do now is cyber...(((((hugs))))) Keep walking the walk
