The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
My cousin lives in a corporate apartment. Last night his washing machine overflowed and ran all night and flooded his apartment and the one below it. The malfunction wasn't his fault except that he was passed out upstairs, and didn't hear the water running. They had to completely gut both apartments. The owner saw this as an opportunity to get him out, and won't put him in another apartment. Told him he had to be out by 5:00 today.
So I go over to help pack his stuff since he sounds sober on the phone. The owner tells me about another corporate apartment from a different owner that he knows is open, and he can be in there tonight. We get in the car to go talk to this lady, and the first thing my cousin asks is if I'll stop by the store so he can get a ginger ale. He's famous for going in and buying a big beer, going in the bathroom and drink it, and come out with a ginger ale. I tell him no, and as he's arguing about it, I smell booze. I decide it's best for me to take him back and let HIM pack his things and sober up/get the smell off of him. I told him I'd be back in two hours to take him over there.
I come back in two hours, and he's asleep on the bed with two big beers beside him. He hasn't done a damn thing but drink those beers. I left him there to deal with it on his own. I've had to turn my ringer off because he has called me 12 times since 1:00.
I'm glad you just left. I would think this is a excellent opportunity to let go and let him feel the pain of his choices.
Something happened and my son is calling and calling for my help. I finally answered and said' I can't do it but I'm sure you will figure something out"
I let go and let God take over.
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
Sounds heartless to some people unless you have gone thru what we have with our A's. You were right to turn him over to his HP and hope he gets the help he needs. Let Go and Let God. And you did.
The calls stopped coming at 4:00. No idea where or what he's doing, but I feel completely in control of MY, let me repeat MY feelings and situation. I didn't create this problem. I can't control this problem. I can't cure this problem.
My HP, my dear mother, whom I lost in 2010 to cancer is looking after me.
I'm going to the beach for Memorial Day Weekend. You guys are the BEST. Thanks for the support.
