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I was telling my son about the AA Al-anon conference in Prescott, AZ next weekend and that I was going. After I get off the phone my partner comes and says there's a outdoor expo in Prescott next weekend so lets go together. I didn't want to be with him so I said it wasn't a good idea because one of us would be without a car all day. He of course got mad and now I'm a A***** because we NEVER do anything together anymore. I said no because it's not my duty to get you to go someplace with me every time. I told him I gave up a long time ago. Now the silent treatment for a couple of days then the blow up. I hate this situation I'm in....but I can't bring myself to leave. I don't even like him sometimes. We are both just living in the same house and it sucks.
Dang.....I wanted to go by myself to a relaxing weekend among people I can enjoy....not worry about some jerk with me.
OH man....he banging things around now. and I sit here feeling guilty...I'm the bad guy.
Update: I went to him and said I didn't want the silent treatment and so we talked. We will take two cars. He will go to his thing and I will go to mine. We will meet up for evening dinner and get a hotel. Next day I will go back to the conference and he will come home if he wants. He said he just might come with me to the conference to see what it's all about. Wouldn't that be nice to see a little what go's on in my life.
-- Edited by Cathyinaz on Sunday 12th of May 2013 06:34:06 PM
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
I just got off the phone with my son. He admitted himself to Community Bridges Detox Center a couple of days ago after getting out of the hospital. Cut his face open and has a black eye.
He called to wish me a Happy Mothers Day and that he loved me. He also wish things could be different. Says he has a new sponsor already and wants to get past the God thing. I asked about meetings and he said he has to do what it takes. I left it there.
Well....I didn't think I would even get a call so my HP gave me a little gift today.
Happy Mothers Day
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
But the silent treatment and the banging the things around oh my! Hope you can work things out.
I am praying that SOMEONE will talk to your son along the way and reach him deep down inside, and help him know how to handle the "God thing". I am praying someone will say the right thing at the right time. You have done well Cathy, I'd have to say your program IS working. Hopefully you can be relieved that he is ok for now and that he is safe. I hate that when you just wonder what he's doing and where he is, been there done that many times over. Have a great day...
In support, Oldergal
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