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911 will always offer to help. Many times when they did arrive my son refused to go with them . They would try to suggest that he go but he would refuse. They left. Only to return several days later when a neighbor called and he was unconscious.
You and your family are in my prayers.
-- Edited by hotrod on Wednesday 8th of May 2013 06:51:39 PM
I got the crisis call but it wasn't from my son it was from my X asking me what to do. His son is so so sick and can't even get up off the couch at this point. I just told him that his son didn't call me because I said to never call me again when he is sick, in withdrawals and needs a hospital because he feels he's going to die. ( He could I guess) I just told my X to tell him to call 911 if he thinks its that bad or find a way to get to the hospital then they will transfer him to Detox.
Not much more I can do....I just can't intervene at this point. If I do, nothing will change AGAIN. I don't want him to die but if he's still talking and has enough sense to call his dad....he can call 911. He always says he so scared to call 911 because they won't help him....I don't think so if he was in a real crisis. Don't you think?
I'm second quessing myself....
All I am doing right now is praying for strength to overcome this. I'm sad but this to shall pass with God's help.
Let go Let God....
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
Hugs Cathy, sending you and your son prayes and support! Hugs p
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
You've learned sooooo much sister that soon the second guessing will fall away to faith in what you have learned and practiced just like this post...Detach - Call 911 - Detach - find a way to get to the hospital - Detach...great practice and all the while standing right firmly in the middle of your HP's hands. Good mentoring to ex also. Prayers always and thanks for the support. (((((hugs)))))
{{{{{Cathy}}}}} I've been there with ABF and I understand it's not the same as your son, but the pain is the same. He'd call me and ask me to get him an ambulance and I'd say no, you called me you can call 911. You're doing the right thing for your son and YOU. He'll go from person to person until everyone gets wise to him and hopefully somewhere along the way he'll understand he needs to get well. God bless.
The change in you has been really dramatic. You are one of the first members who post regularly who came on the board after me so I have gotten to see the difference between now and the beginning.
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"Just being there for someone can sometimes bring hope when all seems hopeless." - Dave G. Llewellyn
I'm so grateful to have such great friends here on MIP. The support is the best. I did a of praying, reading and repeated the slogans over and over and came to peace with myself. I slept like a baby...
I haven't heard a thing so no news is good news. Came though this lesson quite well I think.
Practice, practice practice makes your life better, better, better.
Have a great day and Thank you ((( hugs )))
PS: One day at a time
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
So glad you got some rest that really makes all the difference in the world!! Thinking of you.
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Cathy, your recovery is inspirational to me. I see you doing the next right thing and standing firm on your beliefs. I hate this disease and I pray your son is at his bottom and will turn that corner. I feel the same as you that rescuing and providing the soft landing keeps them locked in their self pity and 'victim' mentality. But I know how hard it is to follow this through. I know you long to go and take him home and look after him until he regains his health but that would send him the clear message that - 'you are a victim with no dignity and you need me to save you' thus he has no self esteem, feels sorry for himself and runs back to the bottle for immediate relief of these feelings that you helped to create. Then you feel guilty and like a failure. I know this roundabout so well because I have been on it my whole adult life. Cathy, from one mother to another you are loving him the right way, the hard way but the most useful way because you are no longer enabling and helping this disease take more and more of your son. Thinking of you.x
((Hugs))...I am new to the message boards and was seeking similar guidance and peace. My qualifier is my sister, so I can completely understand where you are coming from and how you feel. I received a similar call from my parents yestereday letting me know that they had to call 911 to come get my sister and take her to the hospital because she was disoriented and having halucenations. I have told my sister that for her to be a part of my life she has to be healthy and sober and until she can prove to me that she is my contact with her would be very limited. I feel that my parents continue to enable my sister's disease because they continue to pick up the pieces for her every time she relapses so she has yet to hit bottom and decide that she wants to be better. My mom called me this morning to let me know how my sister was doing and to "suggest" I call her and tell her that I love her. I explained to her that I have no desire to speak to my sister right now and that I have explained to her and them that until she can prove that she is healthy and sober, she will not be a part of my life. I could tell that my mother was not happy with my response, and it kills me that my sister's disease is now starting to affect my relationship with other family members. I hate the disease of alcoholism..Thank you for sharing and helping me feel like I am not alone. I am praying for you and for your son.
