The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I have a lot of things happening right now that involve tremendous change. It's the wave of uncertainty about outcomes that always does me in. I need to go back to some of the basics I've been taught through life lessons and use these tools. First I need to separate out the facts from disasterous things I'm projecting about that may not happen. I'm trying to work through these emotions by taking these fears one by one and breaking them down to what they really are - False Evidence Appearing Real. Oh I know that you know all about this too. How many times have we said, "I KNEW THIS WOULD HAPPEN!!"" Then we've kicked ourselves (hard on ourselves as we are) for not having paid closer attention, not having put a better plan in place. I am looking for the balance between procrastination and reaction. I'm searching for balance for rightsizing of my feelings instead of catastrophsizing. So maybe it's time to make lists again like I use to and like I've recommended to others. State the issue and ask myself what's the worst that can happen, and then what possible solutions there might be? If I'm still worried, ask myself again what I can do about it until it's rightsized to the point where i can let go of trying to control it and ask hp to please take it. Thanks for letting me share with you. TT
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Surround yourself with people and elements that support your destiny, not just your history.
When I'm having difficulty, I run it past another Alanon member to see if there are other perspectives before I make a decision to react. It helps keep my focus on the facts because my feelings are often unreliable. Today, someone told me that feelings are generated at the bottom portion of the brain, while decisions and facts are processed at the top... trust yourself to do the next right thing with the information you have. Sending supportive prayers your way.
LOL .. I am good for making thoughts facts and then I really have egg on my face when that's not the case!
Anyway, I'm sooo glad to share this journey with you, hugs P :)
Sending love and support your way during these temporary difficulties.
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Thanks (((everyone))) for your kind words and encouragement. I'm doing much better today. I spent some quality time with my higher power and in a place of gratitude. I've given some thought to what I can do presently and putting first things first which includes more service both in and out of the Alanon program. It always helps to ground me and gives me clarity about my own life. I'm going to do my best to be mindful of the principles of this program in the choices facing me ahead. For now, I can stay in this day and pay attention as my hp reveals more of the plan to me. Thanks for being here and for your support and caring. hugs. TT
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Surround yourself with people and elements that support your destiny, not just your history.
Put them in your God box and send them grace...big hug