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This past week has been a rough week. My alcoholic has been going non-stop. He has even considered buying into the local bar he frequents, which is a topic of another thread.
I was doing so well before that. Going to meetings, speaking, being serene. This news suddenly brought up a bunch of anger and resentment issues. The childhood thoughts of abandonement and jealousy suddenly arose and they're not going away. In fact, it feels like they have always been there.
The sad thing is, this anger gets passed onto others. Through sarcasm, condescention and other angry attitudes. I isolate. I feel lesser than and like I am ready to explode.
I can't live like this anymore. Enough is enough. I need help and a new perspective I have decided to speak to a councellor this saturday. My work offers an eap.
I am tired of being jealous and envious of others.
I have sought the guidance of my higher power and this felt like the right thing to do.
((((Slogan Jim)))) good deal reaching out for help. This for me would be a larger piece of detachment which with program we can do. Continue to detach and move on my own way. Kinda sorta going our own way here in like manner because of a son's decision to generally blow up the family. Wife and I have said "we're here to listen and not to fix". Done. Hope you have a sponsor to pass this one by also. Will be sharing our successes on the board as they come. Keep on ....keeping on. ((((hugs))))
Whatever you need to do to heal is what I say, especially if it's good for you. I believe in additional counseling with someone who understands the ends and outs of addiction to be a plus. My mom and I had this discussion about a counselor my daughter was seeing. I'm insistant that the counselor have a background in addiction only because it can do more damage than good to have someone who really does not get what it's about. My mom is on the other side saying all counselors have background in addiction and that is NOT true.
Anyway, good for you in another step of taking care of you, combine that with your f2f meetings and you are on the right track to healing your body, mind and soul.
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Thanks, I remember asking specifically for someone with an addiction backgrund but they said they that they if the councellor picked is not the right fit, then I could switch.
Slogan Jim: It sounds like you have a very good idea of what is troubling you and what you need to do to deal with it now. You've made some real progress since your last thread which was written such a short time ago. I am glad you asked for a counselor who is certified to deal with people affected by alcoholism. I met with counselors for awhile who had no real training and although they helped me in some areas, they weren't really helpful when it came to dealing with some of the major issues affecting me. I think my growth was slower due to that. Once I was seeing someone who was a psychologist who was certified in alcoholism and substance abuse treatment - what a change that made for me - especially with having to deal with my brain damaged, addicted son. I hope you find somebody who is right for you and also certified in alcoholism and substance abuse issues.
Jim - I am a counselor and have had a counselor. I look at it as part of self-care and applaud you taking this step to take care of you. Them having experience in addiction would be useful but knowledge of 12 steps even more useful because you are so integrated and knowledgeable about alanon and that is a healthy and helpful framework that would be ideal if your therapist knew. Knowledge of "addiction" is not the same as knowledge of alanon and 12 steps. Hopefully you can find both in your therapist.
