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Years ago when my AB used to drink and do drugs I was very grateful to be in another state whilst in college. (He's been clean for 4 years now). My AM has been drinking for 2 years and its gotten to hthe point where I'd much rather be anywhere (the gym
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I'd rather be anywhere (the gym, school, doing martial arts training and be at work) than be at home. There are no problems at home if not for my AM drinking. Life would be normal, but what's normal when living with an A, right?
I'm a born again Christian (I hope I didn't offend anyone). My boss, who is 2 years older than myself is Jewish. That being said, he and I are a lot alike. He and I have shared some very personal things with each other which has been very comforting and helped me to see that its okay to trust men, much less anyone else.
Is it odd to find friendship and comraderie (?) in someone like my boss? when dealing with my AM? He's had experience with this as well with friends so he was able to empathasize.
I don't know if it's the companionship/friendships I want/need but I feel I can be open and honest with how I'm feeling than I can with other people...(that's not to say that I'm not open and honest with my family and my best friend because I am.) Is that strange?
Maybe its the fact that I'm tired of dealing with this...once was hard enough but twice in one lifetime is a bit more difficult to deal with...sorry to sound so down...its been a long day at work and I have to be up in 4 hours...
Thanks for listening.
I am unsure if you have al-anon face to face meetings in your area, but they help me to deal with the alcoholics in my life. Also the book "Getting Them Sober" by Toby Rice Drews helped me so much. I attended every meeting I could get to in my early recovery and found a sponsor and now I have learned some great life tools to get healthier. Sending you much love and support on your journey!
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Sending you love and support on your journey always! BreakingFree
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" Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."
"Serenity is when your body and mind are in the same place."
Friday I went to my first alanon face to face meeting in years. That meeting was the first place in years that I felt so welcomed and comfortable. No reason to be embarrassed there.
I am praying that I take interest in the things I love, like jogging & the gym again.
Be careful with your boss. Not because he's your boss per se, but the thing is you are in a vulnerable place right now and any attention or connection like that could make you go places, do you know what I mean?
