A friendly hello - Al-Anon Family Group

Tyler76 · Newbie

A friendly hello

John · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi Tyer

This board is for the family and friends of Alcoholics. You would probably really get much more out of going to the AA groups board and posting there. We'd love to have you there with us too! smile

Just point your browser to http://aa.activeboard.com

John

Tyler76 · Newbie

John, sorry, and thanks. Be well, friend.

Iman · Newbie

best of luck to you, tyler. what a great first step!

Temple · ~*Service Worker*~

Bless your heart, Tyler!

Good luck to you. We'll be praying for you.

Hugs,
Temple

tortuga · Senior Member

Hey Tyler, respect for your awareness. Thanks for sharing in honesty. all the best to you.

NicoleDiver · Veteran Member

Yes Tyler, your honesty is refreshing - please continue on to the AA board and get some guidance - you'll find friends there. :)

Take Responsibilities · Newbie

hello i am known to most as cookie. i am 32 years old. i will be 33 in may. i have been around people who drink and do drugs all my life, my mother is an alcoholic, my father is an alcoholic and abuses prescription drugs, my brothers (some) ( i have 6 of them) drink and do drugs, mostly ALL the men i messed with had some kind of alcohol and/or drug problem. i have lived with abuse all my life. I met the man i with in 2007 when i was in my 1st few weeks of pregnancy, he is in his late 50's now. anyways. he had already known my daughter through her father but he only saw me over the ears in passing. well we hooked up and developed a SEXUAL friendship, we were both seeing other people. in Sept 2011 i moved in with him b/c i no longer wanted to stay with my abusive cheating man in NYC. i had spent about a week or so at my mom's and one night she got drunk and went BONKERS on me and my 2 brothers and her drunk husband. so i called him and he came and got me. i NEVER asked him, he just moved me in! well he was letting his sister stay there and his son was in and out, so his sister got me wrapped up in the drama she had with his tenants on the 2nd flr and he made me leave and she moved to Florida. when she left he came back and got me. things went straight to hell after that. We got into it one day and he made a comment about his son and to piss him off i made a comment about his son. well about 3 months passed and he started to drink. he was sober 11 yeas or longer. i feel like i am the cause of it! well it got worse and worse, more arguing nd fighting, cops getting called, etc... well in summer 2012 he decided o pay me back for somethings i did, said. he woke up on a sat and started drinking and he went outside on the porch and started screaming "cookie" said this about you and "cookie" said that about you and he started saying a bunch of things about me and his tenants upstairs and it went on and on for hours, he started to get in his car for the (3rd) time to go refill his drink and i snatched the keys away from him, i ended u getting body slammed, ended up under his car, etc.... anyways. i called the cops, i took his beers and liquor and hid it. well long story short he ended up in jail. well when i saw him at court that Mon he had a HUGE black eye, 2! he got punched in eyes by hospital security. Well the judge ordered him no drugs/alcohol and he had to go to aa 7 days a week and report to probation, well it's been 9 months and we had trial a few weeks ago and the judge ordered him to continue going to AA and o drugs and alcohol and 1year probation. he was FURIOUS! I get blamed for this OVER & OVER for the last 9 months and i know i will for the next year or more! i get blamed for EVERYTHING that goes wrong/bad in his LIFE. i am not sure what to say or do anymore. i am NOT going to leave him so i want to make t work. IS IT POSSIBLE and if YES, then HOW? i could use some support and help here. i am a texter if you want to text me or email me also i have a facebook.

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi Take responsibilities

I would like to suggest that you start another topic and introduce yourself. Many will not see your post because you added it to anothers. I am glad you shared and reached out for help. Alanon is a fellowship of men and women who , like you have lived with the problem of alcoholism. We believe that alcoholism is a disease over which we are powerless. Face to Face meetings are held in most communities. I urge you to attend. Check for the main number in the white pages and call. Here you will learn you are not alone and develop constructive tools to live by.

Here are some of the Promises of alanon

If we willingly surrender ourselves to the spiritual discipline of The Twelve Steps and work the program, our lives will be transformed. Members work their program by being willing to attend meetings on a regular basis, reading Al-Anon/Alateen literature, getting a sponsor, working toward applying the 12 Steps of recovery to their lives and by becoming involved in Al-Anon Service work as they begin to recover.

1. We will become mature, responsible individuals with a great capacity for joy, fulfillment, and wonder. Though we may never be perfect, continued spiritual progress will reveal to us our enormous potential.
2. We will discover that we are both, worthy of love and loving. We will love others without losing ourselves, and will learn to accept love in return.
3. Our sight, once clouded and confused, will clear and we will be able to perceive reality and recognize truth
4. Courage and fellowship will replace fear. We will be able to risk failure to develop new hidden talents.
5. Our lives, no matter how battered and degraded, will yield hope to share with others.
6. We will begin to feel and will come to know the vastness of our emotions, but will not be slaves to them.
7. Our secrets will no longer bind us in shame.
8. As we gain the ability to forgive our families, the world, and ourselves our choices will expand.
9. With dignity we will stand for ourselves, but not against our fellows

The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level.