Maybe I'm way off topic here, personally if my stbax decided to get sober and had so little time in the program I would be trying to be supportive vs dragging the guy around to different breweries. If that is something you enjoy why not take a g/f with you. It seems about as productive as taking an RA to Napa and planning a wine tasting weekend. At this point your relationship is going to change in activities. I'm not saying quit your job and give your hobby up. Maybe this isn't the kind of relationship that is going to work for you (and only you can answer that). I can only speak for myself, I would do whatever I needed to do to support early recovery and respect my b/f, spouses feelings. I don't think you fully understand that one drink, one high can lead down a very slippery path the urges, behaviors both mentally and physically that go with it. It comes in waves the limited understanding I have, a bottle of wine can sit in the cupboard or on top of the fridge for days, weeks, months and just like that the urge hits. Why take the risk? It's just something to think about and consider. Best out luck in what you decide.

As a recovering alcoholic, I can't think of anything less fun. I would rather own a liquor store cuz at least there you don't have to smell the liquour when the bottles are closed. The smell of beer is one of the most pungent and it actually annoys me even though I had progressed to only drinking hard liquor for years.

Touring breweries is not "a normal" activity or "hanging out" like you said. That is a highly specific interest that you have that he does not. It's not abnormal or weird, but it's not the norm. It's not like going to the mall or the movies. Wanting him to go along with that is not that much different than if you had an antiquing hobby and wanted him to go to all sorts of antique stores knowing it would bore him and he'd hate it....except in this instance, it could risk his health and sobriety.

So...I can tell you that at over 4 years sobriety, could I go on a brewery tour and not be drunk at the end or soon after? Yes, but would I want to? HECK NO! I would have no problem saying "Go by yourself. I will chill by the pool" or whatever. This is how me an my current partner maintain different interests but still love and respect each other. Most of our interests overlap. My AA is something he doesn't share in directly. He does stuff at church and does yoga and i have no interest in. It could be that you naturally enjoy doing other things with him so much that you spend less time on your "brewery hobby." In that case, it's not a sacrifice. If you are going to be resenting him for not being able to go to breweries and such as much as you like...maybe dating someone in recovery is not for you.

It's also not all on you and I don't mean to come across chastizing cuz he has choices too, especially now that he's sober. Like I said, you are always free to ask and he's free to say "no." "Dragging" anyone into anything is a bad idea and a recipe for a big codependent mess/disaster.

I'm thinking of your name .. Doing this for my guy and wondering what you are doing for you .. it's the grief process of change .. normal to be depressing, irritating, angry even at times or feeling some type of resentment .. any time we lose anything or something changes there is bound to be natural grief .. it may be that you do not have the problem with this type of situation as the partner does .. when i liked to gamble with my partner and then needed to stop it was depressing for him too .. me too !! we loved the atmosphere and felt alive but it wasn't anything near the life i feel in me when i'm sitting in a meeting .. it's a life that comes from within me; it's not out there somewhere .. it's like those who go to church and normally drink the wine at communion time; I have heard some say they can't even do this because it will set them back .. for me with the life out there in the casino, it wasn't really life, it was more like excitement .. i needed the chaotic excitement that accompanies this disease .. it may seem boring for others if they have never felt the serenity .. i've heard it said often my partner has become boring .. but on the other hand sitting with higher power .. feeling his serenity in a meeting .. hearing the wisdom that is profound and can stop me in my tracks ?? believe it or not .. there is nothing better in the whole world or as exciting as this .. God is unbelievably beautiful .. Good luck to you in this .. keep sharing .. your feelings are important too .. maybe just need to be able to express them more in order for the clarity to come .. what's right for one isn't necessarily right for another .. i could never give advice .. i know some who are able to do something such as your asking after recovery but it's usually years down the road .. take care and much serenity to you !