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Sometimes when I get upset and worried and go into a tailspin I think why? I'm doing everything I should be doing to get healthy. Why do I continue to have a problem detaching...
Well...I'm human. Those feelings will always be there, it's just how do I handle them to keep me safe and have peace to except it for what it is.
I'm better this morning and I have the day off so I'm going to go shopping. Reward myself for not continuing my meltdown.
Thanks everyone for the encouragement, support and prayers. They help me to move forward in my recovery.
I'm grateful for another day to do better...Thank you HP
((( hugs )))
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
Hi, detaching is really difficult for me to as I always want to rescue and (now I understand) enable. I have gotten through the denial stage (finally realized-if it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, it's a duck!!!! even the duck denies it is a duck). What I am having trouble with now, with my AD is she says I have become really "hard". So does that mean I haven't detached with love? I struggle with how to show compassion but not enable, to detach but still be compassionate to the A many issues (financial, behavioral, emotional, physical).
That is what it's all about Cathy! Life goes on and you continue to have to live life on life's terms but your turn around time when faced with triggers is shorter and shorter. When you made the choice to enter recovery for you, you rejected dwelling eternally in that dark place. You can visit here and there (and sometimes life will just take you to a down spot) but you will always find a way out quicker and quicker. This is what I found to be the case as well though it took me much longer to learn it LOL.
Hang in there Cathy, and though we don't want to fill ourselves with expectations, I personally don't think we should ever give up hope.... As long as there is life, there is hope.... I'm betting that he is much more aware of his disease, and the options he DOES have, than he lets on to the outside world.... I hope and pray that he "gets it", before it is too late...
My friend Gary (who took his own life by way of a drug overdose), and thousands (millions?) like him don't have any chance - but I'm still hopeful for your son...
Take care
Tom
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"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"
"What you think of me is none of my business"
"If you knew the answer to what you are worrying about, would it REALLY change anything?"
Excellent Cathy, you are going in the right direction....lots of people are with you, thinking of you, and praying for you. I am glad you were with people who understand what you are going through, that is the best medicine. I wish you a calming peace for today.
In support Oldergal
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Don't Worry About Growing Old, It Is A Privilege For Some Of Us.....
You are only human. And your fallback method was always to worry. You are learning a new way to think. It will take time to get it to be a habit. Be gentle with yourself.
