The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I read your post earlier today while I was at work, and I wanted to share my experience. I'm watching my AH destroy the good and loving relationships he has with his siblings and his parents. They care about him so much, but his disease distorts every loving word to a criticism or condemnation in his mind. Even their loving actions or non-actions are interpreted as slights in his mind. It is sad and painful to watch, but that's the disease. I'm sorry you removed your message. I hope you come back. I find this board and the wonderful members of MIP to be invaluable. We all have been there, we know what you are struggling with. Good luck to you.
You're welcome Maurice. I hope all goes well and that you enjoy your al-anon meetings as well. I think we all need a little help from time to time. Good luck and hope to see you around.
-- Edited by milkwood on Saturday 30th of March 2013 09:27:53 AM
Thank you both for your kindness. I suddenly felt a bit nervous of throwing that out there and removed it. I'm planning on going to my local al-anon meetings to prepare for when he gets back, and trying to prepare the family for the possibility of a relapse - just so that, if we're prepared, and if it happens, he won't see any disappointment to compound how bad he'd feel. The sheepdog role! I've been reading a lot on this forum and it seems like exactly what we need - my family and all of you, to know that there are others out there needing and giving support. Thanks again. Really.
I hope you come back Maurice, there is a lot of love and support on these boards.