Got the call - Al-Anon Family Group

AngelicH57 · Senior Member

Got the call

Cathyinaz · ~*Service Worker*~

My son is still alive. He spent 5 days in the hospital from a bike accident. Says he wasn't drinking . Found laying unconscious and 911 was called. He doesn't remember but that's what they told him. He complained about being in a neck brace for two days but the cat scans showed no damage. He said he didn't call me fron the hospital because he didn't want me to come or worry until he knew he was OK. I wouldn't have as long as he was alive.

He said he was going to get help and didn't want this life anymore. What's so sad he says that every time he gets hurt or sobers up in detox. He was crying and still in withdrawal mode so I can understand the pain he is feeling. I just wish he would be strong and not want to go through it again in a month. But I'm sure he will without total commitment to a program.

He asked what I thought about him leaving and going away to start a new life .... disbelief I did say " Son...what ever you do will not work unless you quit drinking" he agreed.

I told him I loved him and hope his face heals well.

He's back with the living for now...

Now back to my life...

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Dear Cathy

I am glad that you heard from him. Such a dreadful disease

You both will be in my thoughts and prayers

el-cee · ~*Service Worker*~

Cathy acceptance comes through in your post. I think that's huge in recovery. You have accepted the facts and keep the focus on you. I'm glad your son is okay and I hope he gets into aa soon. My son is slurring and asking to come home but I said I love you but no. All we can do is ask our hp for guidance and courage to do the right thing.x

ParisMemories · Senior Member

I am glad you heard from your son. You are doing so well with your program. You are inspiring me! Sending prayers for you and your son, hopefully this will lead him to recovery. Hugs.

ilovedogs · ~*Service Worker*~

Cathy, my AH had a bike accident recently and probably needed stitches but couldn't drive himself to the hospital so he patched himself up as best as he could on his own. He now has a nice scar on his head among other scars from that accident. You did the right thing and it sounds like you handled it so well. I know it's hard when they do these things to themselves and then continue to fall downwards into a black hole. They can choose to get out, and you are giving him the freedom to choose that for himself. Hugs to you today!

Pushka · ~*Service Worker*~

Hugs Cathy you did a great job!! I find that the sober talk lasts until the crisis passes.my issue is just being able to really believe what someone shows me. You are working about amazing program keep up the good work!! Hugs p :)

PP · ~*Service Worker*~

For now, you know where he is, a little snippet of peace. What wonderful recovery and strength you demonstrated through your post. Hugs..sending you some virtual peanut butter cups

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

You scared me when I read "the call." I am glad he is alive. We can pray it shook him up enough to really like being sober and on program than be using.

I mean this is bad enough, believe me, my "the call." was, Ed has been in an accident and they do not think he will make it. I will never forget those words.

sooo glad your son has a chance. Mine was only 27 cathy. my first husband.

We knew nothing about AA or Al Anon then. Am so happy you work your program lady!!

sending hugs for you and son,debilyn

Cathyinaz · ~*Service Worker*~

Thank you so much everyone. The support here helps me so much.

Got a text from him last night asking me what I thought about his wounds on his face. I texted back I thought they weren't to bad looking but they are not on my face so I can't relate to much with the hurting he might be feeling. I told him my toes looked worse.. :)

Auntyaya · Senior Member

Doing a great job Cathy, of loving detachment....well done!! So difficult to be a parent, isn't it

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