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I'm not new to AA, I've been to my brother's yearly sobriety celebrations (I don't know what the correct term is)...anyway...my brother, dad and best friend have all been telling me that going to a Face to Face meeting will help me deal with my AM's drinking, which I agree with 100%, but when it comes time to go, I forget because I'm so caught up in (usually) doing homework...and then I feel guilty about not going...when in fact I really do want to go...here's the question...am I being to hard on myself? Thanks for listening.
You won't really know until you go. It's one of those things that someone else can't explain. The saying goes something like this, give it a try for 6 months...what do you have to lose....if you decide it's not for you your misery will gladly be refunded.
If your mother is affected by the disease rest assured it's had effects on you in my humble opinion when a family member has this horrendous disease the whole family carries scars of it.
If you really do want to go then make it a priority. Plan to have all other commitments such as homework taken care of prior to meeting time. I haven't been to f2f meeting in a long time so maybe I should take my own advice.
Just as your homework is a priority, so will meetings have to become for you. It just takes planning. For me, my schedule gets crazy in the evening because my son plays competitive sports and sometimes this has to be my approach to meetings: Shove everything to the left, shove other stuff to the right, and then stick a meeting straight down in the middle. Seriously, that's how I approach it. A meeting takes about 1.5 hrs out of my night and I've learned that those moments in meeting are more precious to me than my time at home completely idle tasks, etc. I've also learned to ask for help with my son, if I really need to get to a meeting. My meetings have become vital to my recovery and I treasure them. I do hope you find the time to get to a meeting soon. Hugs to you today!
