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Well my son has been rushed to hospital. He's taken something and reacted violently with his friends. He is ccurrently homeless so not sure what tomorrow will bring when he's released. I called my ex ah to let him know and he's drunk so feeling a bit of a victim. When does this end?
I had no control over my alcoholic/addict son or my alcoholic/addict exwife and so HP and I pulled in our horns and relied on the 3cees of Al-Anon...We didn't Cause it...We couldn't Control it and we would never be able to Cure it. The hope would be that they reach a bottom and then turn around to find rescue. That is the way surrender and detachment works in the least. My son is now clean and sober and becoming a grand-dad several times over. Last time I saw my ex-alcoholic/addict wife she was also clean and sober and it was so good to witness it however I had to take my intentions and eyes off of her and put them on me before I could recognize what it looked like in her. I hope your son and your ex-alcoholic husband find the doors of recovery themselves. I pray you'll be a committed member of the Al-Anon Family Groups. That is one program I know that works when you work it. (((((hugs)))))
Thinking about you LC, keep busy, pray and remember the 3C's....Iam sorry to hear this news I know it hurts. Take real good care of yourself, I know you know how. In support Oldergal
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Don't Worry About Growing Old, It Is A Privilege For Some Of Us.....
What an alone feeling. My heart hurts for you. You're never truly alone with us here, though. I will be thinking of you and will say a prayer for you, your son and his father.
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"Just being there for someone can sometimes bring hope when all seems hopeless." - Dave G. Llewellyn
He got released this morning, went to his dad's who called to say he's ok, no memory of events. Not sure what happens next. Hopefully he's closer to his bottom. I will admit to being a little fearful of this aggressive, unpredictable side. Maybe my hp is strengthening my decision to not live with him. Thank you for being there last night.x
LC, I must agree with you there, I see no sense in having your son live with you while he is still in the ravages ofaddiction, it would be very sad, and you would be living in fear. You very well deserve peace and serenity in your daily living. Yes I think your HP is showing you some clarity, take heed. In Support Oldergal
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I am truly sorry to hear about your son being hospitalized, and about how it is effecting you. Just keep turning him over to the God of your understanding that you turn yourself over to each day as a part of working this program. It will help you feel a little bit better, and know you are not alone.
John
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" And what did we gain? A new life, with purpose, meaning and constant progress, and all the contentment and fulfillment that comes from such growth."
My precious friend, no mother deserves such horror in her life. What you do deserve and is available to you is the serenity that his HP is working in his life as he is yours. From one mother who has two A son's to another mother who understands that terror, know that my prayers are with you and your child. Deep breathe, just keep breathing hon...one day at a time...remember the promise we are never given more then we can handle.
