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Aloha Diva...I use to think the same way with my alcoholic/addict and I forgot about the Higher Power part of the program and life. As we were going to hell in a hand basket I took the opportunity to get out and let her travel on where ever she steered the basket to and I got into Al-Anon full time...90X90 and such...sponsor and steps and traditions and more suggestions than I can list here and she stayed in the basket until the basket reached her bottom and she was done and I had taken my mind, emotions, spirit and body out of her equation and then by the grace of God only...she got clean and sober and HP used her as my metaphor for humility. It isn't done till God is done. Keep coming back (((hugs)))
-- Edited by Jerry F on Friday 22nd of March 2013 07:20:04 PM
This afternoon he drank a bottle of vodka and started in on me. I took my dogs and left. Upon arriving back, I noticed he had gone to bed, but not before he threw the tv remote and smashed the screen on his new 60 inch smart tv. He is lost. He will never be sober for any length of time. It's too sad. I feel sorry for him, but I cannot waste my time continuing to hope he will stay sober. Diva
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"Speak your truth quietly and clearly..." Desiderata
Hi diva, it is so sad. It's also an easy option. When life gets a bit challenging there is an instant remedy like magic. Then all the problems are gone. I struggle to feel sympathy for my ex sometimes because it's us here in the real world that suffer the most. Take care of yourself.x
Oh Diva, what a hard realization to come to...but accepting is a huge part of moving on. My ex AB made choices like those too until it was more than I could handle even with the help of Al anon. I have come to understand I am currently mourning the lose of that relationship and what I thought it could have been. I let my emotions flow to deal with them and talk with my supports to vent, cry, scream, what ever I need. Its about me now and my recovery from how his alcoholism and all the damage it has done. Good Luck and be true to you. Heather
