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There's an article on AOL this morning by Tina Marie Swithin, who has written "Divorcing a Narcissist, One Woman's Battle." It gave me cold chills. As bad as dealing with a mean alcoholic can be, the Narcissistic Personality Disorder(ed) person is like that in spades and on steroids. The Narcissist has a laser-like focus with the manipulation and can more easily sway the witnesses than can the average and sometimes rather sloppy alcoholic. She has some tips for how to proceed if one is going through the process pro se. Take the high road and acceptance are two of her recommendations.
I don't know if this helps. I have a quirk that helps me to get through things (never as bad as what so many of you have born) by thinking of ways it could be worse. Taken far enough, it can get me laughing, and that helps anything. I could be pregnant with triplets and going through all this, etc.
Blessings,
Temple
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It's easy to be graceful until someone steals your cornbread. --Gray Charles
Oh Temple, I couldn't agree more - laughter is essential. Which also relates to the good old narcissist - when they have you in their sights it is horrendous but sometimes their ideas of their inflated position in the world can be quite hilarious. You just have to laugh.
