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We have 4 children, all are happily married with families of their own except the youngest our AD. I drive myself crazy trying to understand why she can't be like her siblings. We enabled her with money and used the excuses that she was just immature and couldn't handle her finances or keep jobs or friends never would we admit she was an alcoholic or had drug problems it was too painful to accept.
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Nothing is more fatiguing than the eternal hanging-on of an unfinished task.
You're in good company here Angelic. We soooo understand.
My son is an active A and at this very moment is being signed into rehab - we've been enabling him for the past two years and all that has done is allow his disease to get worse. His binges used to be every 2-3 months for a couple of days but this time it has been 3 wks. The binges started happening more frequently and it looks like he's progressed from a binge drinker to a full time drunk.
I threw him out of the house Fri nite(again) and he was on the streets until this morning - came home, had a hot meal, took a badly needed nap and then got up and downed a pint of vodka. We had a long talk between the hot meal and the time the drinking started again and I gave him two choices - rehab or the street. Rehab may just be a waste of time since he's being forced to go but gotta try that one last thing before I close the door permanently.
It's beyond painful watching my child self-destruct.
-- Edited by Path to Serenity on Monday 11th of March 2013 08:37:12 PM
-- Edited by Path to Serenity on Monday 11th of March 2013 08:37:39 PM
My 25 year old son with an A and cocaine addiction just advised that he's dropping out of college (again). Ran out of money to buy food. Second term student loans and bursaries didn't last 2 months. Pawning possessions including laptop he needed for school. Brought him home for a few days and he's been painting his grandmother's house. He can't drive because he's lost his licence for impaired driving (again). He attends an addiction treatment group as an alternative to jail for the second impaired driving conviction. However, he doesn't think he has anything in common with the other addicts and drunks in the group - says he's not as bad as they are. Thru Alanon meetings I've learned that supporting and rescuing won't change his situation (been doing that for years). Getting more comfortable with practicing detachment and not being sucked into the insanity of his life. Also making a concerted effort not arguing with him. I think I'm OK with trying to let him figure it out. Still hard to see your kid go thru this.
