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its blowing a gale in my part of the world tonight and my son is out there somewhere. fear creeps into my mind and my body reacts. i become a bit paralysed. sounds dramatic but i can stay frozen for hours when it takes hold. ive just watched a program(while beng frozen) that may have been sent from my hp. all about addiction as a disease. really convincing for me. the statistics are something like 10% of the population have brains that are compulsive and addictive. all the evidence points to absistenence and a spiritual program as the most successful recovery rates. i love my son so much and i want to more than anything get him and feed him and take care of him but thats what got me into this mess, me taking care instead of caring for him. ive babyfied him, stunted the growth from toddler to child the child to man. my fear based idea of love. however, i will keep forgiving myself and i hope and pray he swims rather than sinks. i will keep my eager to meddle hands off. thanks for listening to my ramblings.x
I might be going through this soon and I can't really know how I'm going to react. Right now I'm trying to prepare myself for the inevitable. Your going through those feeling so I am praying for you that you can come to terms with whats needed. What's needed by you to stay strong and love him and give him the respect that he can make it on his own.
A little prayer for your son that he is safe and warm because he knows that's the best for him.
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
Guilty as charged... I babyied my daughter and now she has no money, no job, no car and no where to live. She's not out on the streets yet but she's burned so many bridges with family and friends...
I hope your son is safe and warm too {{ Hugs}}
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Nothing is more fatiguing than the eternal hanging-on of an unfinished task.
Well I don't think son is on the streets yet. He has been staying with ex ah but only temp. At weekends he could be anywhere though. Also, exah and I don't speak, he won't answer the phone to me so whereabouts of son is unknown. My ex could be with son and he won't alleviate my fears. He is a cruel man. I can picture him feeling powerful and in control because he has the knowledge. Anyway, little does he know it's prob better that I don't know every detail of sons life at the moment. I'll trust my hp.
i spoke to son this morning. hes staying between his dads and a friend, not ideal but better than nothing. i asked him out for dinner tonight. i hope i am not taking anything away from him like his dignity. i think his pride must be hurting because he is so dependant on others at the moment. well i need to focus back on me at least i know that is the right thing to do.x
