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hotrod


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Dear  Cinders

Great program work  I know what it took for you to reach this point

Keep on keeping on .  One Step and a timeaww



-- Edited by hotrod on Saturday 23rd of February 2013 08:44:49 AM

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I spent some time thinking through my frustrations and anger that I was feeling towards my AH for all the years of let down and finally the abandonment.  After some reflection I came to accept that in part, it was that I was angry at myself for having put up with it for so long, allowing myself to be treated in that way.  Today I am not saying how dare he, I am saying I also knew better and should have done better for myself.  I deserve it and should have stood up for me a long time ago.

Moving through my feelings, allowing myself to be hurt and angry, then moving on and letting it go, I feel a great deal better.  I was able to feel the anger and move past it.  I am thankful to you all for the support while I felt something that was new to me.  I have forgiven myself, not yet ready to forgive him but am ready to just be free of the feelings of it all.  While it may take me years to forgive him, I don't feel a need to spew my anger at him any longer.  I am feeling ok again.

Fixed the handle on the car by myself, teaching the 16 year old son how to make repairs.  It was a good learning experience for us both.

Today, I am glad to be where I am at in my life and am so much happier.  Each day I am growing and learning more about myself.  Each day is a growing adventure and I am glad for that.  I can only go up from here.



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Great awareness cinders! Love to read positive shares such as yours. I too, have reached the place of acceptance, and 9 years after the divorce from my daughter's dad, have reached forgiveness. You will get there, just take it One Day at a Time, and you are right it can only go up from here!

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great share. it is about us more than them. we need to forgive ourselves . i like this, i did the best i could with the tools that i had at the time. i had none. now i have alanon.x



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