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I have to share that my AH got himself to the hospital today and begins a 5 day inpatient program tomorrow. I don't have any details. He hasn't told me any of this. He has only communicated with his brother via text. I know he is angry, embarrassed, etc. with me. I also know that this is only the first step. I don't think he has truly admitted that he is powerless. He may only be doing this as an attempt to get back home. Once he was forced to leave, he had no money, no place to stay, etc. etc. When I talked to him earlier in the day he admitted he had no options.
Whatever the reason, whatever the outcome, I am so happy that he is somewhere safe tonight. I know that multiple rehab stints may be necessary, I know that it will only work if he wants it to work. I am trying very hard to detach tonight, and let go and let God.
And through all this, I am still learning about my role in the dysfunction. I have a lot of work to do still, to get myself healthy, but I am going to celebrate this small victory.
Paris...you're very caring...that's good in nice people ((((hugs))))...now say the first step and follow it with the serenity prayer...then duplicate that...then duplicate that right up until the start of your next face to face Al-Anon meeting. See he knows what to do...shocking huh?
I'm so happy for your family with this positive step for your AH. My AH went to detox several years ago and that started an important journey for both of us. I went to a f2f Al-Anon meeting the night he was admitted (I laid my head on the table and sobbed the entire meeting. People were so gentle and kind).
Someone there said to me, "Use this time wisely." so I did. I plunged myself into Al-Anon literature, meetings, I found this message board, began using the phone numbers given to me, and I exhaled because he was away from me and I could use the time to push my reset button. Immersing myself in the program was so valuable and literally changed my thinking. His recovery has had its ups and downs, and so has mine, but this time of marinating in all that is Al-Anon was an amazing start to my journey and healing.
I wish you peace and serenity and that you use this time wisely for yourself too.
Warmly,
Crazycatlady
Yes, Paris- its early days... and you are wise to this situation. With all of the steps and meetings I have had, sometimes I think it just helps to stay 'in the now'. I have learned/am learning- true serenity. Mostly now, if an opportunity comes up, I am there for it.
For me the biggest opportunity is to remain being wise to my own needs...
all the best, I have trodden this road myself... David.
I remember feeling the same as you when my AW first went into rehab. It's definitely positive but please remember to keep your focus on yourself. Do not put all your eggs in the hope basket as I did. It can be so terribly painful if you don't get what you hope for. Don't set yourself up for that kind of disappointment. One day at a time. God bless.
Thanks for sharing Paris. I hope 5 days is enough to show him what he needs to do. But I will say this...they ahve to acknowledge they need and want help as a first step and he has definitely done that! Best of luck to both of you. LIN
Yes, Paris- its early days... and you are wise to this situation. With all of the steps and meetings I have had, sometimes I think it just helps to stay 'in the now'. I have learned/am learning- true serenity. Mostly now, if an opportunity comes up, I am there for it.