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I'm new to this board and after many years realize I'm an ENABLER to my 27 years old daughter and her alcoholism. I have finally realized through many tears that I have not allowed her to suffer the consquences of her addiction by giving her money, buying her cars, bailing her out of jail, paying her bills and believing her lies etc. etc.
I hope by being a member of this board I will be able to stand my ground and stay strong in my decison to just let go...
Take care,
Angelic
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Nothing is more fatiguing than the eternal hanging-on of an unfinished task.
Welcome you've come to the right place. I'm also an enabler and have been my whole adult life. I'm getting better, through alanon. You are among like minded people who can help.x
Aloha Angelic...you won't have to stand it alone...you have a large family standing it with you. We are family. Keep an open mind from now forward as you will be receiving tons of Experience Strength and Hope (ESH) from the MIP fellowship which will be invaluable to your peace of mind and serenity and help you deal with most cunning, powerful and baffling of diseases. For me let me suggest that you look up the hot line number for Al-Anon in the white pages of your local telephone book and call it right away to find the places and times in your area where we get together to meet face to face in support. When there get as much literature that the program offers which will help you come to understand about the disease which affects your life and the life of your daughter and what you need to do for yourself so that you can survive it and help your daughter in the right way. Keep coming back here often also. In support (((((hugs)))))
(((safe hugs)))) sent your way! We have all been where you are at with the struggle of learning how to properly detach with love. Doing it without feelings of guilt, fear, etc.. takes practice, so hang close to Al-Anon, read the literature.. and trust you are on a good path, a right path and a path that will bring you back home... to you... a wonderful person.
John
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" And what did we gain? A new life, with purpose, meaning and constant progress, and all the contentment and fulfillment that comes from such growth."