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I have been reminscing a lot lately. I am basically trying to let go but I find myself remembering past relationships, etc. Mostly I am remembering the sick ones. Doesn't it figure? I wish I could stop. All the alcoholics in my past whether they were in recovery or not. Some of them were really out there too. I am in a pretty healthy relationship right now; he has been sober 6 1/2 years. I am so fortunate to have him so why do I think about others?
I have been beating myself up too for past indescritions. I was really quite out there & partying & clubbing a lot. Now I am living a very simple life. I really don't miss all that. I am 23 years older or so than I was then. I just wish I didn't let my mind wander. I have to re-focus again & live in the present.
So, I will end here. Remembering things is really not good for me.
I'm reminded of a great old saying: "it is okay to look at your past, just don't stare"....
I think when we look at our pasts, in terms of wanting to learn from our mistakes, and grow accordingly - then that is healthy and good...
Depending on where my mindset is at the time, there is sometimes a danger in spending too much time focussing on my past.... For me, it's definitely a matter of degree...
Tom
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"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"
"What you think of me is none of my business"
"If you knew the answer to what you are worrying about, would it REALLY change anything?"
Aloha Kathleen I also relate to Tom 2cents. That is right on for me. The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous relates that "we will not regret the past or want to shut the door on it" and part for me is that I no longer fear the past or using it to keep me honest and real. The door stop that helps keep that door open so that I can review to see if I haven't left anything out is the 9th step...is there anything or one back there that I've missed making amends to for the trouble or hurt I have caused them. I also keep that door open to remind me where I can from regarding geneology especially where the disease of addiction comes in to play. It is a great source of awareness for the generations coming up behind us. Yes it is healthy and for sure I need to use it properly. ((((hugs))))
