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For anyone that it was in the chat room last night, I apologize, especially to you iabob.
I have been hurt & upset all week, I went off like a roman candle but there is no excuse for my behaviour, I have no right to take it out on anyone.
I is hard being abused & hurt, we become like dogs sometimes, we bite back, I am human & made a mistake, I over reacted. Sorry to anyone that was hurt by it.
I feel awfully ashamed, not my usual - good behaviour, sorry. It happened a few times in the very beginning, I would be so distraught, someone would say, "hi" and I would freak out. I don't expect anyone to respond... I made a mistake & figured I had better post about so I can move on.
-K
-- Edited by kitty at 14:22, 2005-12-30
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Hey ((((Kitty)))) we love ya! We've all had our mistakes, our "slips" in program - lord knows I've had quite a few.. lol. The really wonderful thing about program is that it teaches us compassion, tolerance and humility. It helps us to look at ourself - and when I'm looking at myself and seeing these defects of character that I am now working on, it also helps me to be compassionate for others who are doing the same. I see how I can slip and react at times, so I am more aware when others do the same, aware that it is just a slip and so I don't take it personally, knowing none of us are perfect and that we're all just trying to work the program. Maybe at times we all need a good rant just to get it out in a safe environment. If I want others to be compassionate and understanding to me when I'm feeling that way, then I must be the same for them, right? What I've learned here is, I can only be hurt if I allow myself to take it personally what another says. It helps when I remember the lines "what others think of me is none of my business" and "QTIP - Quit Taking it Personally." Goes along with "take what you like (can use) and leave the rest." Compassion and understanding can sure go a long way in helping us to deal with ourself and others, and to help in keeping us calm and serene during any "storms" we encounter. *wink* Luv ya!
Kis
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I was not in chatroom at the time u are talking about, but what I do know is, we are all in Alanon cos we are vulnerable and need support - and thats what the room is for. We all have offdays when everything just gets too much for us and we maybe need to blow off a little steam - the good thing about the room is we can blow off steam at people who know just how it feels to feel like that - we are all human and can all only carry so much - don't feel bad, we all need to release stuff - the great thing is we can be there to be each others buffers for those times.
Take care of yourself, and the one thing I had a friend say to me that has been really important ot me is - remember its ok to not be ok!!
Sometimes stuff just happens and maybe sometimes for a reason. Who knows, maybe someone, somehow benefited from your rant, perhaps someone learned to think before they speak , another learned tolerance, another learned that you can try to love someone right out of a rant :)
It's all good (((kitty)))
Love, Christy
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It happened a few times in the very beginning, I would be so distraught, someone would say, "hi" and I would freak out. I don't expect anyone to respond... I made a mistake & figured I had better post about so I can move on.
