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Becasue I have a hard time saying no and diappointing people, I am feeling anxious and unable to concentrate on preparation for a class I am teaching on Sat, which I am already anxious about. I am worried I will flub it up for sure now! Here is the situation: We filed chapter 13 last year to release 2 rental properties which were draining us financially and emotionally. I am not cut out to be a landlord and apparently our tenants knew that! Anyway, we notified our remaining tenant last year we filed, gave him some of his security deposit back and lowered his rent $250 and told him we would let him know when the house went to Sheriff's sale. We were not notified of the sale and he received a notice from a court officer last night he needs to be out by the end of March. The tenant put a stop on his Feb rent check and wants the remainder of his security deposit back. He trashed the house, so if we had kept the home, he would not be receiving his deposit, but since the home is not ours any longer as of Jan 19th, I am muddled up over whether we should return the remainder of the deposit. Essentially he saved $3000 in rent over the course of the year plus the $375 we returned to him by us lowering his rent and he can live rent free until the end of March. Anyway, I want to do the right thing and not be a doormat......thankfully I will be talking with my sponsor tonight and get her insights so I can continue planning my class and be present to my class when I am teaching! Thanks for letting me vent
Thank you for sharing Paula. I suppose when life becomes confusing and unmanageable we go back to step one..... We are powerless over people places and things We're asked to have clear boundaries....to detach from difficult behaviour and not to accept unacceptable behaviour.
Its so difficult to have clear boundaries when we become muddled about the details of course.
Of course the insanity of it all is about step 2, which is about sharing, and accepting that we have a higher power to help us. Really pleased you can talk it all over with your sponsor.
Hopefully you'll find some clarity x Good luck with your class x
