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My sober Abf was in a wreck tonight. He shouldn't have even been driving, but I no longer live there. He is 3 weeks out of back surgery - fusing 3 vertibra.
Instead of being thankful he is safe & no damage was done to his back or no new damage was added - he is ANGRY that they discharged him with no new narcotics & wrote he was opiate dependent!
Of course he is mad that I agree with their call. He is opiate dependent due to multiple back surgeries, chronic pain, etc... 240mg a day.. Yep, VERY dependent! But I'm a dirty dog for agreeing of course. This stupidity is so old... Wish I was so much more detached than I am... But I did some good, called his dad to drive him home & didnt do my typical "race to the hospital" again... Didn't go at all. Not because I don't care about his well being, because I knew I could do nothing & he was in capable hands.
That is a great step. His problem and issues associated with it are HIS to deal with. You have a recovery of your own and you need to worry about you. I sometimes have to remind myself that you should do something for yourself and yourself only each day that is for 10-15 minutes that is purely for your enjoyment and relaxation. One day at a time.
Good for you for taking the appropriate action. When you work the al anon program, authentic detachment will come. For me, it comes and goes, but I have noticed that when I get "hooked" it takes me less time to get "unhooked". Progress, not perfection! Make sure to get to meetings and find a sponsor and your wish for detachment will happen, in time.
