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6 years of hell just ended. Just like that. 1 hour, one person who took the time to really look at everything and really listen and... its over.
The CPS lady (child protective services) left at 8pm. Was here a little over an hour. Talked to my oldest and youngest, then me. I could tell she read everything that has gone on the past 6 years and what I was saying was all sustantiated.
She left me with these parting words:
"I'm so sorry what you and your kids have gone through, tomorrow I will be telling him he doesn't get to see his kids anymore. Then he will learn he has to come to our office and I will be handing him a laundry list of things he has to accomplish to see his kids again".
She cried when she saw the picture from one event that was deemed "an accident" and then I was threatened and told never to call them again. I told her "look up the restraining order I tried to get, look at how everytime your office called something an accident he took me to court and got more time by saying I was making false accusations". It was all there in black and white.
So it's a little late, a lot of damage was done the past 6 years but I'll take it. I will take whatever I can to give my kids some peace.
WOW, your prayers answered....you're probably beginning to feel that joy slowly coming up from your heart, get ready to enjoy the pleasure you will feel because everything you have struggled for has finally been recognized. Oldergal
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Don't Worry About Growing Old, It Is A Privilege For Some Of Us.....
There are actually tons of people who have been praying for this. TONS. And they are all thrilled and for me yes joy. I've had joy returning in other areas but the joy for me and my boys is the best. I'm so happy they can feel safe everyday and not have to anticipate the pain and anguish from their dad anymore. Best news ever.
It's been a long time coming and I am sooooo glad for you and the kids!!!! It takes a lot of time to say the least.
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
You have a lot of ESH. You could really channel that into speaking/working with Domestic Abuse Victims. Not saying you should...but many women don't make it out. Impressed.
We are all so connected; I am feeling tears of relief run down my cheeks. I didn't realize I felt for you and especially your boys so deeply. Thank whatever Powers there be for One CPS worker who is doing her job.
I don't know how you held onto your sanity for all those horrible years. How fortunate for your sons that you could.
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It's easy to be graceful until someone steals your cornbread. --Gray Charles
Thank you all. Temple you made me cry! Good tears but I agree we are connected. The thing that kept my sanity was auto pilot. My kids needed me to do whatever it took to be there for them. As my friend said "it wasn't about the kids, it was about control of you all along. Its over now". I suspect it will take me awhile to let it sink in but I'm so thankful to my HP, family, friends and MIP for support through everything.
Congratulations on the first day of your new life! You and your children have been through so much. Now comes the peace and the healing. I'm praying for all of you.
