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All very understandable Cathy, and good for you in posting here, rather than making that call...
I would just encourage you to treat yourself as if you were your closest friend - how would you want your best friend - whom you love unconditionally - to behave under these circumstances.... would you encourage her to "stay the course", as best as she could, or would you encourage her to try to "rescue him", knowing full well that this had failed many times over?
No easy answers, of course.... but keeping YOU in recovery is paramount
Take care
Tom
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"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"
"What you think of me is none of my business"
"If you knew the answer to what you are worrying about, would it REALLY change anything?"
I am right there with you Cathy, about drove myself nuts today, where is he? is he eating? felt guilty I have a warm bed and roof over my head, then thought heck he could always find money to drink and places to stay until the early hours or on many accasions a few nights at a time, he always seems to find money to smoke so? then I thought to myself if I rescued him again today and asked him home who would it be for? and I answered myself it would be mainly for me to control and keep him safe, he's an adult now and although this is not how I had hoped his life would pan out it is HIS life, they have choices, and it is so true, when we dwell on stuff it just snowballs, We love them soso much Cathy they know that, whatever wherever they are it will make no difference what we think or feel we are here because we kept doing things that didn't work, chin up and stay strong ((((hugs))) lest try something different!
