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How to you deal with an AH who comes in so intoxicated that he starts frying something , passes out and doesn't even hear the fire alarm? Passes out with food in his mouth. Lets the dogs outside and passes out and forgets them in the freesing cold. If I didn't have to work I could stay up, but I do have to work. I need sleep! He quit his job and refuses to look for anything so he gets plenty of sleep. I think he has been close to alchol poisioning. When do you call 911? If he's not dying there will be heck to pay when he comes to!
-- Edited by tnmom on Sunday 27th of January 2013 11:50:13 AM
((((tnmom)))) welcome to the board and this is a very good post. Actually alcohol is an intoxicant meaning a poison and EVERYTIME a person is drinking alcohol they are self poisoning. I know what you mean though because I have been in "toxic shock" (Overdosing on alcohol...) several times and mind and body functions shut down. The voluntary functions work at drinking more and the involuntary functions start to shut off. This is where "near death" condition exists and where professionals in the health industry are necessary like emergency medical people, ambulances, emergency in take and emergency detox are necessary. This is most usually considered "end stage" alcoholism where death is most eminant on all levels. He cannot stop drinking before the alcohol stops him and the compulsion and obsession demands that he continue drinking until some unknown level of intoxifiction (poisioning) is reached. Forget the thinking...responsible for his actions perceptions you might have...this is the stage where alcohol is running his thoughts, feelings, behaviors and spirit (motivations) the only thing between him and death is other people. Emergency intake...911 call...police and ambulance...emergency room and doctors. The only thing I was able to do was dial 911 and then turn the rest over to powers greater than myself.
If you are not attending face to face Al-Anon Family Groups meetings in your area I strongly encourage you to do so. Facing this kind of insanity almost killed me and my alcoholic/addict. The hotline number for Al-Anon is in the white pages of your local telephone book. Go call and find out where and when we meet in your area.
Keep coming back here and letting us know how you are doing. (((((hugs)))))
-- Edited by Jerry F on Sunday 27th of January 2013 04:16:48 PM
-- Edited by Jerry F on Sunday 27th of January 2013 04:18:42 PM
Alcoholism that is that badly progressed might merit involuntary committment. It's often better safe than sorry, though I am sure there are folks here that will tell you that police came out and told them to just let the person sleep it off. With my ex-A, by the time an incident happened requiring me to call 911, he was really on the verge of death and they did take him and commit him.
*I will add that him being committed to the mental ward for 2 weeks did not make him stop drinking despite promises that it would. It did bring me 1 step closer to leaving though....which I did about 2 months later because things just progressed to a level of craziness that I couldn't tolerate anymore. Situations like you are describing started happening too much.
-- Edited by pinkchip on Sunday 27th of January 2013 05:07:09 PM
My mother died from alcohol poisoning. Sadly, when she was at that point...there was nothing that could be done. We kids all lived too far away to do anything but maybe you could try an intervention? Fire hazards are a huge safety issue and I would be out of my mind about that. I wish you lots of luck trying to keep yourself safe. You may have to consider separating if things get that unsafe.
Hi Im not sure this will help but my son would do this and now I turn the gas off before I go to bed. Im not sure what to do about the dogs though, maybe they could sleep in the room with you. The rest I think I would say a prayer and Let go and let God. Take care of you.x
I have no idea how to involuntarly commit some one. My son (he is a rad tech) said he has seen the hospital just hold them until they sober up and send them home.
To involuntarily commit someone is sometimes at the request of the police and sometimes the hospital. I know my brother had to get help for my sis-in-law and he asked the hospital and the police.... and they did commit her for 3 days at our local psych hospital.... for diet pill abuse.
Often the hospitals and police will take the path of least resistance and let them back out on the street when their symptoms are gone unless the family asks for help.
-- Edited by maryjane on Monday 28th of January 2013 09:44:24 AM
