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6 years of abuse my kids have endured may be ending with a bang. Unfortunately I have to go through the same scrutiny as well.
A therapist for my middle son who lives with his great aunt called CPS. Unfortunately the manner the "data" was presented makes it sound like I knew they were going to be abused that weekend so I'm included in the investigation for "failure to protect".
I had to take a deep breath when I spoke with the lady, gather all my strength to NOT get emotional and react, to remember she has a job to do and then tell her the "story" of my 6 year fight to protect my kids with courts ignoring the abuse, CPS "unfounding" every event and emboldening my ex, the kids so terrified of their father they won't call me, the police or anyone for help when it goes on and often they won't even tell me at all even later. How his second ex wife who left him over abuse lied in court to get a RO reversed, and how the judges told me to send the kids there no matter what and one CPS worker threatened ME if I ever called again.
And then I explained this: He wasn't even having them stay with him months prior they were at my house at night with the exception of a couple of times. He was doing OK with the kids I wasn't hearing the issues and with one event I took my son to the doctor and it is documented and I've been trying to build a case. Then I explained he asked for permission to have the kids that weekend and things seemed ok and I had no idea because no one called me until the following Monday to tell me what had gone on. Because they are afraid of him. And that as of that point in time, they have not been back.
After all that as she began to likely SEE that there were indeed accounts written off in the history (I was telling the truth), and when I explained that the aunt will back me up and is the only reason I felt safe to stand up to him even though he still threatened me with court, she backed down a little. So I said "I have tons of people who know me and the boys and who will vouch that I am the one person in their life that has fought like hell to fix this problem, a 6 year nightmare and anyone of them would talk to you, do you want names?" she said "yes that would be great.
So I've got people willing to come forward who know me and my 3 boys have seen me with them over the years and know I'm a good mom. No I'm a great mom.
So next thursday she comes to meet with me and the two boys living here. Julian's been "resolved" as he lives with the aunt. Now they just have to prove my other two are safe now.
OK HP this ones yours. I have no control over this one.
Big hugs Asm. You work a wonderful program. Sending lots of love and support. Hugs p :) Hp has got you and those boys.
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Went through a very similar situation, that did not turn out so well for me. But, I persevered. Finally people started to listen to me, and things stopped going in my husband's favor. Now, I see the whole thing as a process, that this family needed to go through. We could not continue on, the way we were going. I even continued, for a few years afterwards, to live with my husband. Then, at one point 3 years ago, I finally said enough is enough, I will not tolerate this any more. I wanted more for our kids' and my life. Good luck with your dealings with cps. I would never wish those people on my worst enemy in the world. It definitely helped me during my fight, the very day I turned it over to my HP, and decided I was going to be proactive in our case, instead of reactive. I remember it so clearly in my mind, a peace just came over me, the moment I prayed and admitted I just couldn't handle it on my own any more. Please let us know what happens.
