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AStrongerMe


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My exABF was just found deceased in his car last night. While I will be OK I'm terribly sad. I didn't break it off because I didn't love him, I loved him a lot but feared this day and I couldn't put me and my kids through it. He was a kind, sweet soul. He was sick and plagued with demons. He wanted to be sober but just couldn't do it. This disease is beyond horrible. I'm so sad for his family and children. I'm so sad he had to die that way. Life is so fragile.

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You did just say this week that there was a good chance he would die and that it would be sooner rather than later. It's so sad your instincts were right on....It is sort of spiritual that you did just sort of know this was happening (but also intuitively I guess it was predictable).

It's shocking and sad no matter if you were broken up or not. Sorry for your loss.

If I heard that my ex-A was deceased it would throw me for loops, but I wouldn't be surprised knowing the lifestyle he leads.

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AStrongerMe


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It did catch me by surprise. I always hoped I'd be wrong. A lot of people love him but it just wasn't enough.

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(((((((((((AStrongerMe)))))))))))) Sending you big hugs and much love and support!

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I'm so sorry. It's hard no matter if you've moved on or not. When you loved someone the heartbreak is painful.

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 Stronger Me

I am so very sorry to hear this terribly painful news. This is indeed a dreadful disease.

You, and all his family will be in my thoughts and prayers

 



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Mattie


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I'm so sorry.  What a terrible disease.



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nal


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I'm so sorry for your loss.



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AlAnonDave


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How painful this must be. Prayers of support to you and yours...

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Scary. That's two in the past week. no   So sorry.



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(((AStrongerMe))) Wishing you peace in this very sad time

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Hugs asm, I am truly so saddened to hear of this loss. Prayers to you and your family. Hugs p

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im so sorry for your families loss. 



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((AStrongerMe)) sorry to hear this very sad news. My thoughts and prayers are with your's and his family. The disease is so horrible.

Much Love

Simone x

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hotrod


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Hi AStronger Me
I truly believe that we are never alone   I found my son in his home.  He looked as if he was asleep and had a beautiful smile on his face.  I am convinced that your friend as well as  my son were with HP when they passed

In my prayers



-- Edited by hotrod on Sunday 20th of January 2013 07:08:30 PM



-- Edited by hotrod on Sunday 20th of January 2013 07:54:25 PM

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Sending you support through these next few days. I'm sorry that things had to end this way for him, this disease really is horrible at times. Praying for you and your family.

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AStrongerMe


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Thank you all truly. I'm struggling knowing he died alone. I do not feel responsible it just saddens me to know how strong this disease is. He was a good man, a good father and loved by many. My heart just breaks to imagine his last moments. Thank you all, please lift up his family and kids. They are hurting badly.

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AStrongerMe


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Thank you so much hotrod. That means so much to hear and I think you are absolutely right.

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I am sorry to hear of your loss. This disease has taken way too many..... It saddens me to hear of another. Wishing you peace in your time of sorrow.

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So sorry to read this. Peace for you and his family. We all try to do the best with what we have. but this disease has the power to take it all away.
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Praying for you, as you mourn.  You loved him.  I'm so sorry for your loss. 



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