What is the book you all recommend - Al-Anon Family Group

abbyalana · Senior Member

What is the book you all recommend

tortuga · Senior Member

Codependent no more.And 'the language of letting go'.. By Melody Beattie Getting them sober 1,2,3,4 by Toby Drews

abbyalana · Senior Member

Perfect! I got a gift card for my birthday and realized I could nook it on the iPad! Woohoo! Thanks!!!

el-cee · ~*Service Worker*~

i bought 'getting them sober 4' and i was disappointed. its not got a lot in it. there are 30+ chapters but each chapter is very short only 1or 2 pages. also, it lacks depth about any topics. the author talks sense and it sounds very alanon but the actual alanon books are better. hope this helps.

Zimmy · Senior Member

How al-anon works is a great book, steps, traditions and shares :)

abbyalana · Senior Member

I'm reading codependent no more and I know I am a codependent. I just gotta say - its really pissing me off! It's me. Lock, stock and barrel. I am taking a break from reading anymore this morning because I am feeling overwhelmed now. It's one thing to know cerebrally what the issue is but another to actually read it, see its you and then feel it. This is going to be an emotional read for sure. Hopefully part of the healing process.

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

El cee it is volume one you want. I didn't care for the rest either. One is excellent. Courage to Change and One day at a time are priceless. Also the Big book.

love,debilyn

likemyheart · ~*Service Worker*~

Long ago I read a helpful book - Dance with Anger; a recent read, one that really opened my eyes to the difference between my exah and myself was The Verbally Abusive Relationship - wasn't about alcoholism, but wow did it define me and my ex.

scaredandconfused · Veteran Member

I just read getting them sober. It's a small book but there was so much I could sadly relate too. The part of the book in which they discuss why spouses stay with alcoholics really hit home. There's a part in which the author recalls a woman at a meeting saying that she was afraid of being rejected by a reject really summed up my feelings about my husband. I was so terrified of losing him but now that we are separated my life is so much better in so many ways while he just sinks lower and lower. He had me convinced I needed him and when the complete opposite was true. The book describes .alcoholics as paper tigers and I find that so accurate. I'm going to read codependency no more next.

Pushka · ~*Service Worker*~

Now I really liked Getting them sober Vol 4, that is probably because it applied to me in the sense that I am going through a divorce. So it applied to me on a lot of levels and still helps to go back and review. It gave me permission in a weird way that it was ok to leave. I kept feeling like I had to justify why I wanted to leave.

Hugs P :)

Co Dependents Guide to the Twelve Steps, another Melody Beattie book. It's a break down of the steps.

one_moment · Veteran Member

My friend from f2f Alanon let me borrow her Co-Dependent No More. When handing it to me she said don't take it too much to heart. In other words, she didn't want me beating myself up over it. I understand how you feel but don't be too hard on yourself. Use it as a tool to learn and grow. Btw...chapter 12 had me in absolute hysterics. (((Hugs)))

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