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I hope to be where you are at this point. Just for my son to have a job would make me happy at this point.
You and your son are my prayers that progress will continue for the better.
Just finished a book that I'm going back and read again. "Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children" by Allison Bottke. It's very good and informitive.
-- Edited by Cathyinaz on Friday 18th of January 2013 01:57:45 PM
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
I went over to speak to him just wanted to say how happy I am for him, that he has kept his job and has stuck to it all week, but he said he wasn't speaking to me, it hurts but I feel that if my putting him out has kept him in his job and away from his fair weather friends, and safe, it's a small price to pay, Ideally I would love it all to be cosey and rosey and easy but it isn't and yet it feels like the right thing to have done, the weekends are the worst when he is liable to go binge drinking and so many people offer advice telling me I am being too hard on him, it's easy to give advice when your not living it, I think there is a vast difference to the odd drunken night out compared to regular binges that always result in injury and or the police or hostpitals, and the household being forever in turmoil, the worry doesn't stop just because they are not around but at least we are spared being the foucus of thier anger, godbless all the families going through this x
Hugs to you Katy, you are not alone. As I read your post it sounds as if this is a big step in the right direction. Seeing your children adrift and lost is so gut retching, but we are powerless............
Hi Katy, I think you are so doing the right thing. You are no longer accepting unacceptable behaviour. That is a very good lesson for any parents to teach their children. I find it comforting to think of my son(very similar to yours, I just have not had the courage to put him out yet) as having his own HP so he has guidance like everyone else. Also, I know my son only really behaved badly to get negative attention from me so take away the attention then strangely there is no longer bad behaviour. Well Done for having the courage.x
