The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Today, I am feeling a little worried, but trying to ignore it.
My recovering AH left yesterday, with my dog, to spend a few months in Arizona to get away from the cold north. The cold and humidity is really impacting his back pain issues and he was absolutely miserable here. I am quite proud of myself for letting him go and wishing him well. Especially considering that 2 1/2 years ago, I wouldn't let him out of my sight to go to the store!! It is not the most ideal set up. He didn't want to go alone and I work full time, so hence the dog. It is going to be a long winter. I will need to keep busy and try to enjoy the winter months here alone. I know it is none of my business, but I just want him to stay sober. We have really rebuilt our marriage and I hate to risk it. But... it is not my decision to make.
I will be attending my Alanon meetings faithfully now for sure!! I think I am going to need them. But, on the other hand, I think I have made great strides in letting him go, with a smile on my face and hope in my heart.
I keep thinking of the one verse, I heard many years ago... If you love something, let it be free. If it comes back, it is yours, If it doesn't, it never was.
So, I may be hanging around here more often again. I love and need all the strength that I get from all of you. Thanks for "listening."
The Serenity Prayer in practice always gets my attention and takes my breath away because that is a daily goal in my recovery...Acceptance...Courage and Wisdom. What a practice. Thanks girl I needed that. (((hugs)))
Thank you for the encouraging post! I am new to the board, new to this side of addiction (recovered addict myself). Through my other half's recent binge, subsequent (and on HIS terms) return to treatment, sober for 8 days now, I am praying and trying to 'let go and let God'. As an addict and a 'fixer/helper' by nature, NOT my strong suite. But, thanking you for this post, as I look forward to the day when i truly am able to let go, hoping he will do what he must to live, as well as me do what I need to do to live free of the chaos.
It is not the most ideal set up. He didn't want to go alone and I work full time, so hence the dog. It is going to be a long winter. I will need to keep busy and try to enjoy the winter months here alone. I know it is none of my business, but I just want him to stay sober. We have really rebuilt our marriage and I hate to risk it. But... it is not my decision to make.