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Green Eyes


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My AH of 30 years (we've been separated for that last 1 1/2) died of complications of his alcoholism last night. He was 52 years old, was the father of our three daughters and grandfather of our two young grandsons. I am saddened, yet angry at the same time. The disease won, our family has lost.

He died of liver failure, gastrointestinal bleeding and kidney failure, yet it was just three weeks ago that he told me that he didn't have a drinking problem- I was the one with the problem. I need to let go of the hurt and anger and give this up to my HP. He will get me through this. Thank you for all of your support on this board. It means so much...

Please keep us in your prayers as we deal with a very difficult time in our lives.



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(((Green Eyes))), I am so sorry for your loss and for your family's loss. I will be praying for your family and for you as you go through this difficult time.

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I'm so sorry Green Eyes. Prayers are with you and your family

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Sorry for you and your family's loss.thinking of you.x

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I'm so very sorry to hear this.  Thinking of you and yours.



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I'm gonna huddle down with you and converse with HP and ask that we be able to help those who reach out for help while at the same time asking that we be held in peace and serenity.  He wasn't bad...he was sick...incureably sick.  hmmmm   ((((hugs)))) smile



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(((Dear Green Eyes)))

I am so very sorry to read this. I so understand your sadness, anger and pain.

I lost my 41 year old son 5 years ago in a very similar fashion. You are not alone .

Please stay close to program and this Board.

My prayers and thoughts are with you today

  



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Green Eyes.....

Sending peace and healing. 

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Keeping all of you in my prayers, GE. ((HUGS)) to you.

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So, so sorry for your loss.....this disease steals hopes, dreams, and lives....I know your kids will be a source of strength for you..and you will be there for them, right back...take care of yourself...



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Ohhhhh GE,

HUGS my friend I am soooooooo sorry for your loss and your families loss. Please know you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Take care of you.

Hugs P

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I am very sorry for your loss. I am so glad you had al anon to count on when you were going through such a difficult time.  You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Maresie.



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Peace and love to you and yours.



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So sorry for your loss Green Eyes, it's a cunning, baffling and powerful disease. i have lost two cousins to this disease myself, at a very early age. They were both in their 40's at the time. My prayers and thoughts will be with you and your family during this time.

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I am praying for you and your family. May God strengthen you and comfort you.

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I am so very sorry for your loss.  You and your family are in my prayers.    TT



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I'm very sorry for your loss.



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Sending you prayers, and your family as well. My alcoholic father died 10 years ago at age 54 o health issues attributed to his alcoholism. He never acknowledged his drinking and on his deathbed was unable to say he loved my brothers and I, I think because the disease has so warped him by then. I was angry and sad for years. As I learn more about the disease, I realize what a hold he allowed alcohol to have on him and how much of life he missed out on. I hope you and your family find some peace in this difficult time

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Im so sorry for your loss. May your HP turn this experience into many blessings.



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Sending you and your family peace, love, prayers and support!

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((((GreenEyes))))) I will keep you and your family in my prayers. My deepest sympathies in this time of great struggle. Wishing you a bit of peace and serenity when you need it most.

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Your family is in my thoughts and prayers. So very sorry for your loss.

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I am praying for you and your family.

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(((Greeneyes)))...I am so sorry for your families loss.  You and yours are in my prayers through this very difficult time. 

Much love and support

Simone xx



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hmm so sad to hear of your loss.

Tough to grieve for the loss, and at the same time for the person who might have been.

My thoughts and paryers are with you and with your family.

David.



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Dear Greeneyes,
Sending you and your family much love and prayers for peace and calm.

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so sorry for yur loss Greeneyes,i lost my brother to this ugly desease at age 37 yrs old and a 1st cousin both were suicides ,my father is still an active a today at age 80,and what siblings i have left r all alcoholics also or have addict minds and trying to fight the desease w/o any help,i dont know how thats gonna work for them,and im now trying to get out of a 3 year relationship with a a/d,im now 49 and all my life ive been back to back in and out of relationships with a/d men,now i want to be free from it all,my heart and prayers go out to you greeneyes and yur family im so sorry what this horrible desease has done.take good care of your self and be good to YOU,as you go through this time of greif.i love you!!!!


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I am so sorry for your loss ((((GreenEyes)))))

You are in all our prayers and we are here to support you through this.

Blessings, Tigger x



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Very sorry for your loss. The disease won over him, but not you.

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Greeneyes, I am praying for your loss.  I'm also praying for your children and grandchildren who will also be asking questions, and not understanding why this has happened.  I pray that this is something that will bring all of you together, and that you may heal together, in this loss, and that it might bear witness to how horrible this disease is.  As others said, he wasn't a bad person, he had a bad sickness that has taken his life.  I am so sorry.  The next few days will be so hard for all of you.  Remember to talk about good times and share good memories.  Hugs to you. 



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(((((Greeneyes))))))

I am So Sorry for your Loss & For your Children/Grandchildrens Loss... I Lost my Afather to this disease at 58 and I So Relate to the Anger And I too just a week before was told he didn't have a Problem! His Doctors were Crazy! My Prayers will be sent for your Peace & Well Being as You walk this Journey with your Children...

In My Thoughts & Prayers

Jozie

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I am so sorry for the incredible pain you are feeling right now. I pray that you and your family are able to find comfort.

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My heart and thoughts are with you.

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Greeneyes,

I'm sorry for your loss and that alcoholism had claimed yet another life. My husband was taken by the disease three years ago this Sunday. I wish you peace as you travel this difficult and complicated grief journey. I will also pm you with a website for young widows. It provided extra support for me as I grieved the loss of my husband. There is a special section for those whose loss was in special circumstances like ours.

Take care, Rocky38



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I also lost my dear sweet first husband to death relating to alcohol. we had two tiny kids. And my second marriage same thing, complications from addiction is so brain damaged.

So very very sad for you and yours!! it is horribly hard! Really right now taking care of the basic surviving mode is all you can do. Take naps!!! Keep food, simple food in your tummy.

Its so important not to make any decisions, keep it simple, ONE day at a time. means do what you feel you have to then let go and rest, eat, rent a movie, do nothing.
Allow friends and everyone to help you. ask for hugs. even if you cry at the store and someone asks if you are ok, say no, my husband just died. LET people help you!!!

Ask us for how we did it. how to figure out bills or where to go for help. Please do. I am always available pm and will give my private email out and if it feels right give my phone number. One gal on here was a nurse and she helped me immensely thru my mothers dying from cancer with me at home with her!

MIP really is ahome of your family. OH green eyes I am so sad for you and yours. wish I could grab you all up and bring you home!

whatever you need, please pm me! debilyn your sis in MIP



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So very sorry. Know that y'all are in my thoughts and prayers!



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I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Be gentle with yourself.

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